Mom has been in a retirement home for about 3 months and keeps begging to go back to her previous home for an overnight stay. For her safety we had to make a decision to move her into a retirement community. I am just not healthy enough to take care of her and my husband will not tolerate me losing my own health to care for her. She constantly puts the guilt trip on me which is still affecting my emotional health. I am afraid that a visit back to her house will make things worse and she might refuse to leave. She claims she won't, but I am so torn between what life to lead now. Anyone had any situation like this?
But, if it is just you, it may be different. The emotional turmoil this ONE visit created for many people was just not worth it. This has been the bane of my existance and cause me much emotional distress and physical stress from worrying about it.
In short, the "emotional reward" of taking your mother for a visit is not worth the tremendous risk of falling, tantrums, refusal to go back, stress on YOU, etc,etc.
Do not do it.....bring her a photo album, sit and reminisce instead!!! Take care of yourself!