I can say I am taking him somewhere - beach, doctor, barber, church and we are driving there and dad keeps saying where are we going. Almost child-like wanting to hear his own voice, We can't tell when he really can't remember or is playing a game. It is very frustrating. I know not to show anger, or be rude etc. But the way he speaks to myself and my sister is at times nasty. Then he'll say I'm only joking. He does not speak to our brothers that way or their partners. Any suggestions on how we can rectify this or at least make it easier to live with.
No dementia, just a huge ego. He thinks hearing aids will make him look old. One of my daughters said "Dad, you ARE old and saying "what? What? all the time makes you look ancient". He does not care. He does do some of this to be nasty...and he loves to "poke the bear" meaning, he LOVES to tease me.
Try and find small items for each place you take your Father, an empty pill bottle could represent either the drug store or doctor's office, etc.
You need to always use the same small object which is associated with each place you take him, in attempt to help him use a combination of a visual object, tactile stimulation = holding the small object in his hand(s), in addition to hearing your answer, every time he asks "Where are we going ? ", all in effort to help his brain with dementia, effected by memory loss.
If you try this and it does not work at first, please don't give up, please keep trying, before you chalk this new method off your list. This method can work, however, it takes time and patience.
I do try to recommend to people to get all the elder financial issues taken care of before they go to deep, and then start researching home health aides or a memory care place, because it will become worse and you might suffer trying to "do it all". I already knew where this would lead, and cannot physically care for her myself. She refused to move, whether to a brother's place or a facility. As I write this, she is moving into a place (again, not really willingly, hopefully they can get her acclimated soon).
Also, for anyone who has been in the armed services, the person could qualify for benefits to help pay for services, if it is determined to be needed.