About 2 months ago mom couldn't walk but had no other symptoms. I called an ambulance and she had pneumonia and blood clots that traveled from her leg to her lungs.
She came home 5 days later and she was placed on hospice care. She got a hospital bed and a Hoyer lift (which was of no use to her due to her thin skin).
Over a year ago I hired an aide to come in Monday thru Friday to help me and she has been a blessing.
Mom isn't eating much (some days she does swallow a scrambled egg) and drinks juice (Pedialyte). At night she drinks soup I made.
She has to be moved in her bed to prevent bed sores which is not easy for me to do alone even though she's thin.
So it's a matter of time. I'm very sad. I took care of her for 12 years and she was very easy to take care of. I don't regret any of it.
You have been a blessing to her and everyone here that has heard your story.
May you find peace, comfort and joy now and for your future. (((HUGS)))
I'm sure you don't feel lucky, right now, as I'm sure you were not expecting someone to say that.
But, you are truly blessed to of had such a beautiful relationship with your mother.
I'm very touched by your post. And I'm very sorry, that you have to go through this horrible time and that your mom is leaving you. 🙏😥
As far as moving mom in bed to prevent bed sores goes, you only have to move her a quarter turn every 2 hours. Not much, in other words. Waffle boots to protect her heels are a great idea too.
I pray that God gives you strength and endurance to bear this caregiving journey that lies ahead. And that moms transition is peaceful and comfortable.
Sending you love and empathy, my friend. One day at a time.
(((((HUGS)))))
Sending you a big hug and a prayer for peace.
Of course you are sad. I don't think anyone would expect otherwise.
Now you need to be kind to yourself.
Ignore all those that try to rush you to "get over this".
You grieve in your own time, your own way.
Take time for you to take care of yourself.
((hugs))
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