He mows the yard, but he adds oil to often and gets upset if I even mention it. He will take something apart and not remember what he did with the parts, I will look but we have had to replace things. He gets very upset when I ask him to let me do things or at least check it out. Just looking for some idea how you have handled this. Thank you
My husband understood that he had Lewy Body Dementia, and that made it somewhat easier for me. I could say, "I know that you can carry a dinner tray. You've been doing it for years with no problem. But today mean ol' Lewy seems to be very active, so I think I'll just carry it this time."
I also called upon his "retirement" often. "Yup. You are excellent at snow removal. And I know you love to do it. But you are now retired from that activity, on doctor's orders, so let's let a neighborhood kid earn some cash doing it this time."
I also like freqflyer's suggestions about things to do. It became my husband's job to fold the handtowels. He could see that it wasn't just busywork -- we used the towels. He also matched up socks from the laundry.
It is hard. Good luck to you both!
Something as easy as helping you carry the laundry basket from and from the washer/dryer.... getting the newspaper in the morning.... taking out the recycling... putting dishes in the dishwasher, even if you have to go back to rearrange them :P.... pretend to struggle with a screwdriver and ask for his help.
Pick your battles... ask yourself if something he did really worth a blow up. Half the time it's not.
I chuckle knowing that if I die tomorrow, he will starve to death wearing dirty underwear and smelly socks. He doesn't even know how to pay bills. LOL