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Does someone have POA? Does someone have guardianship? Is mother still enough in her "right mind" to be able to make reasonable decisions? What does her doctor say about care needs? Does she have infirmities in addition to dementia -- for example, mobility issues, vision problems, respiratory conditions, etc. How old is the granddaughter in the household that wants to care for her?
More information would be helpful.
In our family, as my mother developed dementia, the first thing we did was take steps to keep her in her apartment as long as we could. Meals on wheel, a housecleaner, a person to do her laundry, a visiting nurse, frequent visits from us, etc. When that was no longer enough, we planned to place her in assisted living, and found a facility. At the last minute one daughter said, "I'd like to have Mom come live with us." The rest of us said, "Hooray! OMG that would be so wonderful! Thank you!" And we all helped as best we could providing some respite.
And then, after 14 months, that daughter said, "I am devastated to have to say this, but Mom's health is now beyond what we can handle here." And the rest of us pulled out all stops to find a care home. By the end of that month Mom was in a nursing home, a few blocks from one of her daughters. We each visit Mom at least once a week. She is content where she is. She definitely needs 3 shifts of caregivers around the clock.
In other words, in our family, one daughter was able to care for Mom in her home as long as she was in the "assisted living" level of care need. When she reached the "skilled nursing home" level, that is what we arranged.
I suggest that you and your siblings sit down together (with a speaker phone if you aren't able to meet in the same place) and discuss the big picture. Not just what Mom needs now, but what she is very likely to need down the road. Dementia gets worse. It is what it does, no matter who is doing the caring or where the patient is, the needs increase. Try to come up with a long-term plan. If one daughter is going to take her in, it should be definitely be viewed by all as temporary. Maybe for 6 months, maybe for a year, maybe for three years. But very likely not for the rest om Mom's life.
What happens if the four of you can't agree? Well, then we are back to the legal questions. Does anyone have authority for making decisions on Mom's behalf? If not, I guess the daughter who wants to can invite Mom to live with her and Mom can say yes or no.
I truly, sincerely, fervently hope that you can all agree to try to work together in Mom's best interests, and even if you don't all agree, you do not let this come between you. It is awesome to work together as a family. I see how incredibly lucky I am when I see posting about dreadful family conflicts. It is worth working hard to be "lucky" in this way.
nrude, I noticed on your profile you wrote that your Mother has Alzheimer's/Dementia. Will your sister and her daughter be able to do the work of 3 full-time caregivers? This disease doesn't get better, only much worse.
Have the sister who wants to be the Caregiver read up on Alzheimer's/Dementia. You can print off a lot of material here on this website.... go to the blue bar near the top of the page and click on SENIOR LIVING... now click on ALZHEIMER'S CARE... scroll down to all the articles.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
More information would be helpful.
In our family, as my mother developed dementia, the first thing we did was take steps to keep her in her apartment as long as we could. Meals on wheel, a housecleaner, a person to do her laundry, a visiting nurse, frequent visits from us, etc. When that was no longer enough, we planned to place her in assisted living, and found a facility. At the last minute one daughter said, "I'd like to have Mom come live with us." The rest of us said, "Hooray! OMG that would be so wonderful! Thank you!" And we all helped as best we could providing some respite.
And then, after 14 months, that daughter said, "I am devastated to have to say this, but Mom's health is now beyond what we can handle here." And the rest of us pulled out all stops to find a care home. By the end of that month Mom was in a nursing home, a few blocks from one of her daughters. We each visit Mom at least once a week. She is content where she is. She definitely needs 3 shifts of caregivers around the clock.
In other words, in our family, one daughter was able to care for Mom in her home as long as she was in the "assisted living" level of care need. When she reached the "skilled nursing home" level, that is what we arranged.
I suggest that you and your siblings sit down together (with a speaker phone if you aren't able to meet in the same place) and discuss the big picture. Not just what Mom needs now, but what she is very likely to need down the road. Dementia gets worse. It is what it does, no matter who is doing the caring or where the patient is, the needs increase. Try to come up with a long-term plan. If one daughter is going to take her in, it should be definitely be viewed by all as temporary. Maybe for 6 months, maybe for a year, maybe for three years. But very likely not for the rest om Mom's life.
What happens if the four of you can't agree? Well, then we are back to the legal questions. Does anyone have authority for making decisions on Mom's behalf? If not, I guess the daughter who wants to can invite Mom to live with her and Mom can say yes or no.
I truly, sincerely, fervently hope that you can all agree to try to work together in Mom's best interests, and even if you don't all agree, you do not let this come between you. It is awesome to work together as a family. I see how incredibly lucky I am when I see posting about dreadful family conflicts. It is worth working hard to be "lucky" in this way.
Have the sister who wants to be the Caregiver read up on Alzheimer's/Dementia. You can print off a lot of material here on this website.... go to the blue bar near the top of the page and click on SENIOR LIVING... now click on ALZHEIMER'S CARE... scroll down to all the articles.