In my case, when I was going through my demented mother's things prepping for her AL move and the sale of her house, I found out my mother has been the mistress of a married man for over 20 years!!! I am divorced because my ex husband cheated and all those nights of me bending mom's ear and her being so sympathetic, just to find out she was doing the exact same thing! Devastating and what a conflict of emotions!
Feeling such sorrow for my mother because of her diagnosis and such anger and disgust at the same time. Ugh....
Anyone else find out negative stuff about your loved one you were unaware of? Just wondering how common this is. Please share here. Thanks and peace to us all. :)
To neverland,
The old saying Like mother like daughter or like father like son or another saying is runs in the family saying.
As I stated many times on this forum.Becoming a caregiver requires without choice to learn their darkside or as you call it ( secrets/skeletons in the closet )
I'm a child from the 1970's.The 70's was the best of times I would say.Great movies and great music began in the 70's.Most music today is just remakes from the 70's.From Eagles,Foreigner hot blooded to cold as ice as on the morning school bus hearing Paul Harvey.Those times we will never see/hear again as best of times.Sorry for the flashback lol I loved the 70's!
Anyway,
Dealing with these elderly people today as caregivers is just like a flashback from the 70's.These elderly people still think their in the 70's in thinking and spending money.I have a Aunt that I caregiver for.She lives alone in her own home .I drive 20 miles one way trip,5 days a week to care for her needs.I don't get any reinbursement from my time or gas to help her.And the old 70's era lady doesn't offer a dime to me either.Once in a blue moon she may offer me $5.One gal of gas is darn near $4 a gal.It's sad what us caregivers get our selves into without thinking prior.Dealing with my Aunt I learned she is very hateful as I learned her darkside.Getting passed their darkside and moving on is a job of it's own.