I have accepted that I have to play the waiting game in allowing my 98-year-old mother-in-law (who has mild cognitive impairment and pretty severe balance and walking issues) to continue living alone at home. It feels so cruel and it’s driving me crazy waiting for something terrible to happen. How do you guys cope with this?
1) play the waiting game, and see what happens
2) try to convince the LO that its not safe and get them placed
3) If you deem it unsafe, call APS and report the unsafe situation and see if they will take action/ move to guardianship and placement etc
Whichever choice you decide to take, then its best to stay resolute to it, as hard as that is...
it sounds like you are going with #1, so stay resolute and remind yourself for the reasons you picked it . At the same time, if something happens, eg a fall and trip to ER etc, think and plan about what action you will take at that time....
We’ve come to terms with her “ right to rot” .
You and your spouse should go on a nice long weekend vacay and focus on each other.
I really liked what daughter1930 said. She is so right!
Also I'll add at times for me I feel often like I'm on an emotional rollercoaster.
I worry then I kick myself back into gear. Then I'll be living my life , pretty much care free, then I get a phone call. Then the worry is back.
I think that's pretty typical, for what we are going through. When I have my worry moments, I try to remind myself I got though this the last time, I'll get though it again .
Then I busy myself, clean walk, music, what ever helps me get Me back .
I will agree having a plan does help.
My husband has Parkinson’s decades younger than your MIL and yet I know if not other co morbidities or complications will happen, falls or choking are common with PD.
If I did not accept it I would drive myself crazy expecting the worse every day!
Your mil wants to rot by herself rather than sell this house and get help. It’s up to her really.