Has no income who is being supported solely by me in a separate home? Paying rent, food, etc., but who has no SS#, living in the "underground economy"? All IRS tax programs throw it out because I cannot supply her SS# (rejected by her several years ago and apparently not in the system any more). I suppose I could try doing it MANUALLY, but will probably raise a RED FLAG W/irs. Have been supporting for at least 2 previous years.
Did your daughter reject her social security card as a stance on big government? If yes, wasn't that her choice to do? Then she needs to take responsibility for that choice. She shouldn't be dragging you into her political arena.
Angel
And tell her that you need all your money to take care of yourself because you won't always be able to work full time and you will soon need to hire help during the day to stay with her father.
Good luck with this. I know it's tough to be stern. As far as legally claiming her as a dependent, without a social security number, you are probably out of luck. Even babies have SS numbers now.
An adult child with disabilities would collect SSD, be on Medicare and have subsidized housing. There would be no need for the parent to support them.
You say "underground economy" and I take that to mean working off the books and collecting SNAP or other public support. You are correct to think that claiming the dependent would raise a red flag.
Personally, I would neither claim the dependent nor send them any support. They have made adult choices and need to experience the consequences. You are an emotional victim of abuse, only you can break the cycle.
Angel