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How do I get my work to let me leave to take care of my mother? I take her shopping I do this once a month. Major grocery shopping, pay bills, help around the house. I do what ever she needs done.
helpingmother, check with your local grocery stores and see if any of them offer on-line ordering where you can pick up your order curbside whatever day you wish or you could have Mom's groceries delivered directly to her house [yes, there would be a delivery fee].
I have Peapod here in my area that is connected with one of the major grocery stores. I would ordered my parents groceries under their own account which is paid for via a credit card.... and I would also order my own groceries under my account. The only draw back was my Mom didn't think the items tasted the same as going into the grocery store and buying them... [rolling eyes]. This service was great, I could buy groceries while sitting in front of my computer, wearing pajamas at midnight :)
Agree with others! You may need to hire her companion care. Someone to come in a couple of times a week, to check in, help around the house, take her shopping. I would recommend that you us a professional service, as they are licensed, bonded and trained. Go to your Area Agency on Aging in your County, and they can recommend one to you. They are also a very valuable resource for many things, as you travel further on down caring for your aging parent.
Your options are take vacation days, take family leave time if allowed, or take unpaid leave if allowed. If none of those options work for you, consider hiring a person to go shopping with your mother once a month or have groceries delivered. Can you hire a service to help around the house? Can you pay her bills online? How far away do you live?
Comments above are spot on except without more information it is hard to tell why you need time off right now
Is your mother out of the area such that you're traveling once a month?
How old is she and what is her general health ?
I have a professional level job which although it requires long hours does give me a little flexibility from having to punch a clock - that said all my vacation and sick times generally goes to helping her
helpingmother, I had to use all of my vacation days, all of my sick days [used to take parents to doctor appointments] and took days without pay.
The huge drawback of doing that for many years is that headquarters realized that my work was being done by other corporate employees, and lo and behold my position was eliminated :[
Gone was my salary, my health insurance [after COBRA ended], profit sharing, stock options, life insurance, education fees, license fees, etc. All gone. All because my parents refused to ride with strangers ... refused caregivers who could have driven them... and refused cleaning help. But back then I didn't know I could have set boundaries to have more control of this situation.
Whatever you do, do not use FMLA [Family Medical Leave Act]. You need that for yourself in case you have a medical issue where you have to be out of work for a certain length of time. The FMLA helps you keep your job. Glad I didn't use mine as I had been diagnosed with a serious illness and was out for 3 months.
helpingmother, you won't be able to depend on your workplace to give you leave to take your mother shopping. You'll have to fit your shopping in to the evenings or weekends. That's not unusual, since it is what most working people do.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
I have Peapod here in my area that is connected with one of the major grocery stores. I would ordered my parents groceries under their own account which is paid for via a credit card.... and I would also order my own groceries under my account. The only draw back was my Mom didn't think the items tasted the same as going into the grocery store and buying them... [rolling eyes]. This service was great, I could buy groceries while sitting in front of my computer, wearing pajamas at midnight :)
Is your mother out of the area such that you're traveling once a month?
How old is she and what is her general health ?
I have a professional level job which although it requires long hours does give me a little flexibility from having to punch a clock - that said all my vacation and sick times generally goes to helping her
The huge drawback of doing that for many years is that headquarters realized that my work was being done by other corporate employees, and lo and behold my position was eliminated :[
Gone was my salary, my health insurance [after COBRA ended], profit sharing, stock options, life insurance, education fees, license fees, etc. All gone. All because my parents refused to ride with strangers ... refused caregivers who could have driven them... and refused cleaning help. But back then I didn't know I could have set boundaries to have more control of this situation.
Whatever you do, do not use FMLA [Family Medical Leave Act]. You need that for yourself in case you have a medical issue where you have to be out of work for a certain length of time. The FMLA helps you keep your job. Glad I didn't use mine as I had been diagnosed with a serious illness and was out for 3 months.