I am trying to care for a man that has been in my family for a long time. He is 90 years old with no Medicaid and I am now disabled and can not care for him like I used to. He has no immediate family to help care for him and I have tried to apply for Medicaid for him only to be told he doesn’t qualify. I am at my wits' end because he is experiencing dementia and it's hard for me to deal with. He gets social security and a very small pension but I was told it is not enough for a decent nursing home or home attendant. Can someone please help me and tell me what to do?
You could consult with a Medicaid Planner for your state if you are privy to his financial assets. Most states' Medicaid will only cover LTC and they must also qualify financially. This is where the Planner comes in to help figure out what it would take for him to qualify.
Mstrbill mentioned the "ER dump": if your friend has to be admitted to the hospital, you make sure the discharge staff knows he is an "unsafe discharge" and that there's no one at his home (even though it's your home) to take care of him. They will apply a lot of pressure for you to come get him, and even tell the lie that they'll "help" you once he's back at home -- but don't believe it. You'll just be back at square one. Make sure no one goes to retrieve him and tell the hospital social worker that he has no one and no place to go. This is a "last choice" and a hard reality but at this point you still have options that don't involve you housing and caring for him. You need to take care of yourself!