Mom is in a facility so we don't see what happens when we aren't there. She is fine during the day but at night, her personality changes, from what I am told. She doesn't have a mean bone in her body. But this dementia, or the people who have worse memory issues than she does, is either making her worse or something. I was told that she could have sundowners. She doesn't wear her glasses, which is fine. Now she won't wear her hearing aids again. They are new. I don't think that the employees know how to deal with people like her. Although, I do like one of them. One of the care givers tonight when I stopped over, told me that she hit one of the caregivers when she either tried to give her the morning meds or tried to put on her hearing aids. She doesn't have any problems with me. Does anyone else deal with situations like this? I would love for her to live with us but I think that I would be in for a larger responsibility than I can handle.
If your mother is refusing to wear her glasses and her hearing aids, then she's likely to be having even more behavioral troubles as she will have difficulty knowing where she is in space. Poor eyesight & poor hearing = trouble. If the care givers can find an effective way to help her on with both of these items, she'll be much better off.
Here is a link to some useful info about Sundowners:
https://www.seniorliving.org/health/sundown-syndrome/
Be sure to speak to the staff at your mom's community to make sure they DO have experience with memory issues/dementia/Alzheimer's, so you can feel assured she's being properly cared for and doesn't have to placed elsewhere.
Best of luck!
I was told that if she starts creating any problems, that she will be asked to leave. She knows not to hit me. I don't want her to leave and I know that my brother doesn't either.
I would prefer she be moved to assisted living. But they need to show her again how to do some of the things for herself but they won't. Just like a little kid, if you don't show them, they won't learn?
I don't feel that they really know how to deal with people who have anger issues there. It seems all that they want are people that are calm all the time.
I was told that they told her that she should wear her hearing aids. She was told that she only needs to wear her glasses when she reads but she doesn't do that. I will talk to her again about her wearing her hearing aids. I made a sign for her about what she should do. I can just as easily get back to her in a nice way.
And don't worry,I won't bring her home with me. Still working full time and no time to take care of her properly. Plus she is with other people and with us she would be with just the cats during the day and us during the night.