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Wow, you guys really came through for me.Maybe I'll try all of the above tonight. Listen to native music, smoke pot, open the window, pat my cats, read IRS instructions etc. etc. If I don't fall asleep I might flip out and be taken to the funny farm. I hear they have lots of good drugs there that would help me out.
But seriously friends. You guys are the absolute best. I knew I could count on you for great advice. Love you!!!
Gershun, Sorry that you are missing your mom. I believe that once a caregiver, always a caregiver. A retired caregiver, but with a wealth of loving concern, compassion, burnout, and skills that could never be taught in schools. And, always a part of this caregiving community, a part of a special friendship and family that won't forget you. If that leaves you a bit undone for awhile, and sleepless, then you are not alone, friend.
Get up. Adjust the temperature, cool is better for me. Open a window for circulating air. Drink water. Don't expect anything fun, entertaining, or exciting to be happening in the middle of the night. (Changing your expectations). Don't fret over not sleeping. I eat something, but not much. Repeat your bedtime ritual. If you want to sleep, turn off electronics and the screen on your tablet/kindle at least one hour before bed. Appreciate the silence, the dark, or, turn on a nightlight. Hope this is helpful to you.
Hi Jeanette - sorry to hear about your bad experience. One of the first "strain" I tried also sent me into a near panic attack. For some reason it reached into my brain and found my worst fear - who will look after my son after hubby and I no longer can. It only lasted a short while but it totally freaked me out! So into the trash it went. Then I got on line and did a truck load of research. Educated myself on the different strains, "head highs" vs "body highs", munchie strains for people who need to help their appetite vs those who don't (me!) strains that are good for pain, strains that were good for anxiety etc. I was dumbfounded at how specialized it all has become. I also found a shop where the staff really listened to my needs and fears and after trying 3 different strains I found the right one. A while ago I clocked how much sleep I was getting in a week - roughly 28 hours and never for more than two hours at a time. My daytime hours were being dangerously impacted by my lack of sleep. I wasn't safe to drive - would fall asleep behind the wheel. At times I would actually fall asleep standing up. I once fell asleep while vacuuming! I couldn't nap during the day as I had to watch my son - every now and then I could get him to lay down with me and I would throw my arm over him to wake me if he tried to get up. But people with autism are notorious for needed little sleep...Melatonin does work for my son at bed time. He takes 3mg every night and has for 20 years. I would have thought he would have developed an amunity to it by now - however on nights when I hear him still awake an hour after going to bed, I'll think about it and realize I forgot to give it to him that night. So I would suggest anyone try that before going my route - Melatonin just didn't help me. For sure cannibis isn't the answer for everyone - but it has been the only thing that has helped me after over 40 years of sleepless nights.
Whatever you do Gershun, don't do what I do... 1. Do not watch those cooking shows then cook loads of yummy stuff, end up eating it all because it's only you and of course, get fat. I keep telling myself that I'm purposely trying to see how much weight I can gain.
2. Do not expect your fur kids to be any company. My girls don't stop snoring when I get up and leave, if they do happen to wake up, it's only to occupy the empty spot leaving me to become a contortionist when I do go back to bed (heaven forbid I make them move)
3. Don't watch a comedy (Train wreck) expecting to laugh the entire movie. Oh no, even that movie made me cry when her dad in AL died. Gads.
4. Pot? HA! Been there, done that. I laid huddled under the covers with a major panic attack from just a few puffs, which was after I ate the entire box of cookies.
Lately I youtube Native American flute music set to sounds of thunder and rain as GA suggested I try to redirect my ever rampant thoughts and concentrate on deep breathing.
Rainmom, I've been dabbling with heading over to the pot shop since it is very customized these days. After the awful experience I've had the few times I tried it I am a bit leary... God knows I don't need the munchies followed by severe anxiety attacks. Oh and no judging from me... if it had become legal 6 months earlier I was going to try it on my mother to ease her 36 hour pace-athons.
Ugh, I was restless last night, too, and it was only a quarter moon in the sky. I usually turn on the TV and search for a show that normally would makes me sleepy... I tune into the Buzzr network with the old 1950's-1970's game show reruns which also has the old commercials from that time. Eventually I will doze off.
As for pets, I usually find all 3 cats on the bed, with two of them glaring at each other then in a blink of an eye a cat fight develops. Not easy to doze off after that :0
It's at those times when I find myself saying some of the most honest, heartfelt & passionate prayers that I can...prayers for help & guidance as well as prayers of thanks for small victories & unexpectedly quiet moments. It always gives me a sense of peace that allows me to relax & fall asleep.
RainMom makes a good point - aromatherapy. I sniff cinnamon; it relaxes me so quickly. I also have a heating pad with lavender and geranium oil - Just a quick sniff relaxes me.
Heating cinnamon or ginger or cloves in water can also produce soothing aromas.
And if you have a cat or dog, petting them is soothing enough to be relaxing.
I've had insomnia as long as I can remember, even as a teen ager. I've become a mini expert in all the home remedies. What type of bedding, what type of pjs, scents and lighting, sounds and warm drinks - some ridiculous some reasonable. I even sought rxs but avoided the real heavy hitters as I need to be able to wake up if I hear my disabled son getting up and wandering the house. Nothing worked. As my mom declined my insomnia got worse - I would have at least 2 nights a week with no sleep at all. On nights I could sleep I would only be able to sleep about two hours at a time - then up for one hour - then sleep for two. I never got to that REM stage that you need to hit to become truly rested. One thing has finally worked - it a bit radical. So, my AC friends please don't judge me. Cannibis. Being a child of the 60's I had tried it a long time ago but hadn't used it in over 30 years. In Oregon cannibus became legal for recreational use last summer. Now you can buy it in little shops where they have "bud tenders" who advise you like you are shopping for a fine wine, lol! I asked for one that would help with sleep. The pot today is nothing like the pot of my youth - it is very customized, if that's the right word. Two puffs and I fall asleep almost immediately and stay asleep for at least 4 hours. I never smoke during the day - although I've been tempted on particularly stressful days, lol. I don't drink alcohol at all. And I only resort to it on nights when I spent at least two hours trying to fall asleep the old fashion way. It has saved my freying sanity. My brother suffers from insomnia as well - I suggested it to him and has worked for him as well. Just a thought. Of course you need to be in a state where you might be able to get a medical marijauna Rx or in Oregon, Washington or Colorado where it is legal recreationally.
Melatonin usually works; sometimes I take a 81 mg aspirin, which a neurologist advised me to take years ago anyway. I used to drink certain kinds of herbal tea but haven't done that in years and don't remember which kinds I drank.
But first I try to redirect my mind. I read sometime ago that SERE military training incorporated a technique to refocus thoughts on something other than a current experience, such as that when someone was caught by an enemy combatant. It's a method of coping with an extremely unpleasant physical and mental situation (you can interpret from there).
So I think about waves lapping on a deserted beach, the scent of pines in a forest, and breath deeply as singers do - it takes concentration just to do that. Learning to breathe for vocal strength is different than the way most people breath naturally. Usually I'm out in about 5 minutes.
If worse comes to worse I get up and read IRS instructions. The ones for trust tax preparation are especially good; I can hardly get through a page without becoming drowsy.
Or get up and do something that always relaxes you, whether it's reading something soothing (unlike IRS instructions), or something that diverts your attention (sewing, crocheting, knitting, drawing).
I had trouble sleeping last night. So I got out of bed, went to the living room, and took an over-the-counter sleep med with Benadryl. I just God an Amazon Echo, so I ordered up a thunderstorm sound and listened until I got very sleepy. Off to bed!
Any major pharmacy has a generic. Cheap, non- habit forming, effective.
Gershun, I hate it when that happens. Sometimes I wake up in the middle of the night and have a hard time getting back to sleep. I rearrange the pillows and covers, but nothing works. I take the covers off, then pull them back up. Ack! I usually just lay there and convince myself that resting my body is good, too, so not to worry so much about not being asleep. Finally I go back to sleep.
Back before modern times (and modern lighting - thanks to Thomas Edison and the Industrial Revolution that required working on a set schedule) a lot of humans slept in two blocks of time. So they'd wake up and get up and do some stuff and then go back to bed. It's only recently that we think we should sleep in a solid 8 hour block of time. Here's an article from LiveScience about it. If they strip it out, google polyphasic sleep. It's pretty interesting. Once you realize you're "normal" when you wake up, it makes it easier to deal with, I think.
Try zzzQuil. It is wonderful. I also will take melatonin in the early morning hours. That will usually get me another five hours of sleep or so. And watching Andy Griffith episodes on YouTube also works fairly well. Chamomile tea? Hit the brain off switch. Don't you wish there was such a thing? A sleep switch woyld be better, but then how would you turn the wake switch on?
The best advice i ever got about insomnia was "get up". Don't stay in bed and worry. Get up and read a boring book. Do the dinner dishes. Sit in the dark and meditate. When you feel sleepy., go back to bed.
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I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
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APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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But seriously friends. You guys are the absolute best. I knew I could count on you for great advice. Love you!!!
Adjust the temperature, cool is better for me.
Open a window for circulating air.
Drink water.
Don't expect anything fun, entertaining, or exciting to be happening in the middle of the night. (Changing your expectations).
Don't fret over not sleeping.
I eat something, but not much.
Repeat your bedtime ritual.
If you want to sleep, turn off electronics and the screen on your tablet/kindle at least one hour before bed.
Appreciate the silence, the dark, or, turn on a nightlight.
Hope this is helpful to you.
1. Do not watch those cooking shows then cook loads of yummy stuff, end up eating it all because it's only you and of course, get fat. I keep telling myself that I'm purposely trying to see how much weight I can gain.
2. Do not expect your fur kids to be any company. My girls don't stop snoring when I get up and leave, if they do happen to wake up, it's only to occupy the empty spot leaving me to become a contortionist when I do go back to bed (heaven forbid I make them move)
3. Don't watch a comedy (Train wreck) expecting to laugh the entire movie. Oh no, even that movie made me cry when her dad in AL died. Gads.
4. Pot? HA! Been there, done that. I laid huddled under the covers with a major panic attack from just a few puffs, which was after I ate the entire box of cookies.
Lately I youtube Native American flute music set to sounds of thunder and rain as GA suggested I try to redirect my ever rampant thoughts and concentrate on deep breathing.
Rainmom, I've been dabbling with heading over to the pot shop since it is very customized these days. After the awful experience I've had the few times I tried it I am a bit leary... God knows I don't need the munchies followed by severe anxiety attacks. Oh and no judging from me... if it had become legal 6 months earlier I was going to try it on my mother to ease her 36 hour pace-athons.
As for pets, I usually find all 3 cats on the bed, with two of them glaring at each other then in a blink of an eye a cat fight develops. Not easy to doze off after that :0
Heating cinnamon or ginger or cloves in water can also produce soothing aromas.
And if you have a cat or dog, petting them is soothing enough to be relaxing.
But first I try to redirect my mind. I read sometime ago that SERE military training incorporated a technique to refocus thoughts on something other than a current experience, such as that when someone was caught by an enemy combatant. It's a method of coping with an extremely unpleasant physical and mental situation (you can interpret from there).
So I think about waves lapping on a deserted beach, the scent of pines in a forest, and breath deeply as singers do - it takes concentration just to do that. Learning to breathe for vocal strength is different than the way most people breath naturally. Usually I'm out in about 5 minutes.
If worse comes to worse I get up and read IRS instructions. The ones for trust tax preparation are especially good; I can hardly get through a page without becoming drowsy.
Or get up and do something that always relaxes you, whether it's reading something soothing (unlike IRS instructions), or something that diverts your attention (sewing, crocheting, knitting, drawing).
Any major pharmacy has a generic. Cheap, non- habit forming, effective.
Don't stay in bed.
Try zzzQuil. It is wonderful. I also will take melatonin in the early morning hours. That will usually get me another five hours of sleep or so. And watching Andy Griffith episodes on YouTube also works fairly well. Chamomile tea? Hit the brain off switch. Don't you wish there was such a thing? A sleep switch woyld be better, but then how would you turn the wake switch on?
Hoping you got some sleep.