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Even though I didn’t always have a good relationship with my mother I feel her death has been harder. Unfortunately I’ve still haven’t had time to grieve her loss. I believe my father has Behavioral Variant FTD and have a appointment in July to start the process to get a diagnosis. I will be relieved , happy and hopeful for a different life once he passes. He hasn’t ever been a easy person to be around.
Losing my mother was difficult. She died of cancer, at home with just me, and I was glad for both of us when the end came. The next step of dealing with her possessions and my interstate sisters was amicable but hard work. Then afterwards the longer term issues came – remembering the very difficult journey at the end, going over longer term memories and regretting all the things I wish I could ask her, and just missing her from my life. She was a very strong woman to whom my sisters and I owed a lot, not the least of which was removing us from my awful father. When he died, the remaining family more or less cheered. My first husband Martyn was my cousin, and my dear MIL/ aunt was my link to the family memories until she died just short of 100. Then Martyn died last year, and I am really alone – now no-one knows the family stuff except me.
My dear second husband Tony desperately missed his father, who was a great bloke. His mother survived another 17 years, and the end was sad but mostly back to the ‘hard work’ of dealing with the details. Tony was never so bound up in family dynamics (lucky him), and his siblings are still around, so for him it’s mostly still missing his Dad for over 10 years.
I never knew my Dad cause he died when I was four. But I believe his death shaped the person I became. I've been told I was very attached to him and even though I can't remember this I do think that I've had abandonment issues all my life.
Then I transferred my attachment to my Mom. She and I were very close although I think I had maybe an unhealthy attachment to her. When she died I took it very hard. I'm still taking it hard.
Subjective, for sure. I can only offer this: Regardless of gender, the death of your last living parent creates a tectonic shift.
You face chores and obligations that are specific to “no-parent” status. The age hierarchy in your family resets. The word “alone” carries more weight.
The death of your last parent is extra final, for lack of a better description.
Blackhole For me it was my dad's death. My mother is alive, but when I moved back home it was like I had to pick up where he left off. I have all the responsibility that he had...in other words, everybody looks to me to lead the family, to figure everything out, to lean on and I find that I don't really have anybody...but I do know God is for me and I am learning to lean on Him. My dad was my rock. I could come back home to get away from the world because I had my dad, but not now...instead of him running the house and family--it's me! But I guess, I well know if what you say holds truth for me. My dad is the one who really loved me! I hope not! Well see...
I am not interested in what is worse. Just opening up a box to talk. I imagine sons losing their dad is just as complicated. Sometimes people just want to talk. Get things off their chest. Rage. Primal scream. Whatev. Mine was my,mom's.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
My dear second husband Tony desperately missed his father, who was a great bloke. His mother survived another 17 years, and the end was sad but mostly back to the ‘hard work’ of dealing with the details. Tony was never so bound up in family dynamics (lucky him), and his siblings are still around, so for him it’s mostly still missing his Dad for over 10 years.
It's different for everyone, I think.
Then I transferred my attachment to my Mom. She and I were very close although I think I had maybe an unhealthy attachment to her. When she died I took it very hard. I'm still taking it hard.
You face chores and obligations that are specific to “no-parent” status. The age hierarchy in your family resets. The word “alone” carries more weight.
The death of your last parent is extra final, for lack of a better description.
For me it was my dad's death. My mother is alive, but when I moved back home it was like I had to pick up where he left off. I have all the responsibility that he had...in other words, everybody looks to me to lead the family, to figure everything out, to lean on and I find that I don't really have anybody...but I do know God is for me and I am learning to lean on Him. My dad was my rock. I could come back home to get away from the world because I had my dad, but not now...instead of him running the house and family--it's me!
But I guess, I well know if what you say holds truth for me. My dad is the one who really loved me! I hope not! Well see...