!! VENT ALERT !!
I’m not talking about dementia. Just a loss of, what, manners? Discretion? Consideration?
My 86 year old father doesn’t ask me how I am...he tells me whether or not he’s pooped yet...and in detail. How much, how long it took, consistency, Jezuspleazuz. Drives me crazy! He’s done this for YEARS. I don’t know if it’s become more prevalent, or if it’s just getting to me more lately.
NOW he’s started to tell me about his “scabbed up pecker” (post-catheterization in hospital) and I just DO NOT WANT TO KNOW! I have told him for years that I don’t want to know about his butt or his bowels...deaf ears.
He lives in a senior facility. He has regular doctor’s visits & home nurses 2x a week. So he certainly has an ear (or an audience) for his butt/poop/penis concerns.
WTF?!?
Some things a daughter DOES NOT WANT TO KNOW.
It may literally be driving me crazy. It definitely keeps me from calling or visiting sometimes, I just don’t want to hear it, but it’s inevitable.
I just realized recently that my grandfather did the same thing.
What the HELL?!?
Ugh...
She never used to be like this in her younger years. It slowly developed over about 10 years as her health declined from COPD and she became less and less active. Her mental faculties were as sharp as ever though.
I came to the conclusion that it was because, as she was less able to get out and about, her entire world was drawn inward to just her apartment and her physical condition. She had no daily experiences to share - except her illness and her bodily functions.
This realization didn’t make it any easier to get through her poop updates and phlegm color reports, but at least I understood why. Her world had shrunk.
Sometimes you just gotta face the facts........ and perhaps these are issues that are bothering him.... scabs.... okay... that sounds like it may be an issue... take him to a doctor.....NO, YOU DO NOT HAVE TO CLOSELY EXAMINE HIM.... JUST make the appointment..........LET THE PROFESSIONALS LOOK AT HIM CLOSELY.... and decide if this is an issue.. seriously.... it may be... but I certainly do not want to examine him.... :-
Add to that the many public facilities closed during the pandemic, and limitations are even greater. Where does one go when an urgent need arises? Despite a variety of useless devices on the market, I haven't yet learned of one which addresses women's needs in a manner than addresses men's needs. I learned this from a female backpacker who spends days if not weeks on trails.
Men can carry urinals in their vehicles, but it's not quite that easy for a woman. Getting out and finding a sheltered spot in the woods or whatever isn't the best option either.
This can I think lead to a focus on those functions, which others interpret as loss of filters. Perhaps this is what it is; perhaps these folks in these situations are just thinking ahead and trying to plan their day as they could decades ago.
I think there's another issue that doesn't affect seniors but reflects a loss of filters: the apparent tendency to share one's personal life (such as that congressman who was posting inappropriate photos of personal areas).
I've noticed over the last 4 years that some women anchors are wearing lower cut blouses, dresses and sweaters. Two on the local news wear clothes so tight and far too small that even their arms are bursting out of their clothing. Some female meterologists also wear inappropriate clothing, at least a size or more too small.
I think this is tacky, and trashy. People who dressed like this years ago were considered low class; today it seems to be acceptable. Whatever happened to modesty?
so weather gals dress nicely too. some more tailored than others.. perhaps ask their employers what is acceptable or expected.
so, the camera puts on an extra 10 pounds? If yo don't like it,,, change the channel,,, or look up the weather online.. Pick your battles...
THIS IS THE AMAZING PART... YOU DO HAVE A CHOICE !!! DO NOT WATCH THAT CHANNEL... Change it and be done...
So sorry that you are dealing with this issue.
Young: Hoping for a BMW
Old: Hoping for a BM
https://www.theglobeandmail.com/life/health-and-fitness/health-advisor/theres-more-to-dementia-than-memory-loss-know-the-signs/article18884152/