Mom can do a few things but she can no longer cook or clean properly. She hasn't washed her hair in months. I am the daughter and just moved in to help her and my step dad. She is angry about so much. I understand to a point but at what point do I just sit her down and say "Mom you may not remember this but you have Alzheimers. I am here to help. You need my help." If I hadn't come on the scene the next step would be a home. It was too much for my step dad to handle and Im not really sure how he managed this long. I would have been here sooner but was stuck in Panama. She is thousands of miles from her family (her choice). I try to involve her in cooking. I know she can't but I am now in her domaine (the kitchen) and want her to feel like its team work. She is having no part of it and she doesn't want me to either. I am full time with her now and her next assessment is in a few weeks. I am looking for any advice.
If your Mom is not being treated for depression, I would encourage you to talk to her doctor about it. Reminding her that she has ALZ DZ is probably not going to help the situation.
Hopefully you did not give up a career and family to move back home. Best of luck.