It is (was) 4:45 pm here in Texas and I am counting the minutes until bedtime. Today has been extremely busy. I have been on the move since I got up at 9:00 am this morning. The entire first part of the morning was devoted to Mama, her needs, her wants, her everything. It was possible because my almost 5 year old grandson was not here. He was at school.
I left at 1:00 pm to pick up my grandson from school and returned home about 3 pm. The cycle started all over again, bringing, fetching, carrying, feeding, medicating, and on and on. This time there are two of them. My grandson was born a preemie with several medical issues himself. Topping his list of issues is his 13+ allergies. If that is not enough, he has the serious and DEADLY PEANUT allergy.
I could go on, but I will stop here, for now. I just wish bedtime would hurry up and come. I am so tired I could sleep for three days straight. Is it bedtime yet?
What should I do first? Should I eat? Would a good hot shower first be better? What would YOU do as soon as the two of them go to bed? What sends you over the edge by the end of the day?
I do encourage others to make sure they feed themselves well and often. I have made a point of having breakfast (fruit, cereal and a protein - usually pecans) within 30 minutes of getting up. I still can get mom her coffee and grits or toast or whatever. Having the breakfast with protein keeps me in a better mental place...I have missed very few days of this since I began on New Years. I also keep Kind Bars around. if things are too hectic...I can have one of those (they have fruits and carbs and protein - at least 5 grams) fairly easily. I am gluten free (mom is not) so often we have different food.
Take care of your self!
What sends me over the edge is not being remembered; being considered to be the "enemy"~
He has the diagnose.
I am seeing no difference in us ~~
It is very peaceful. (today) Even if I am angry, may I be peacefully angry & it no longer is anger!
Showers~that's funny~I have no hot water~he has, I don't.
Eating food~is that like sex?? Sarcasm, gets me through sometimes, peacefully to myself.
HAPPY VALENTINES DAY ONE & ALL.
Whatever I do & where ever I walk, may it be peacefully happy, peacefully sad, peacefully the gift I am handed~Peacefully...................
I MUST stay away from facebook!
Mom's ping-pong ball game.
Lay down. Pop back up 10 minutes later. Sit there and stare out the window for 10 minutes. I suggest a shower - she says "in a minute". Sits for 10 more minutes. I suggest the shower again - she says "give me a minute". Sits for 5 more minutes. Then says, "I know I shouldn't, but I'm going to lay back down." Lays back down. Pops back up 10 minutes later and the whole thing starts all over again.
I work from home, and my desk is in the living room. NOT by my choice - I caved to her request to have it there so she'd have company all day long. I much prefer to be by myself when I'm working, so I can focus and not have the tv noise, her bodily noises and all other distractions in the background driving me nuts. Add in her little ping-pong ball game of popping out of bed every 5-10 minutes and I'm fit to be tied by the end of the day.
This is not an every-day thing, but about once a week, she has a day like this. Unfortunately, today is that day. It is also a shower day and we have a birthday party to attend this afternoon. I will be very shocked if she decides to go to the party - her normal pattern is to resist the shower until I get absolutely pissy with her about it, then she decides she doesn't feel like going to whatever we had going on that day.
It's a wonder I ever get any work done at all.
True to her normal pattern, when I got firm with her about the shower and put my foot down about it, Mom decided she wasn't going to the party - too tired, just don't feel like it. I knew it. But now she's been sitting up for over an hour watching tv - too tired to shower or do anything else, but not sleeping, either.
I have had to resort to making a bite to eat for myself and eating it standing in the kitchen, a bite or two at a time while going back and forth into the room where she's sitting.
I have taken my plate of food into the room where she is a couple of times and tried eating there, but that is a whole 'nother story.
I think staying away from FaceBook is a good idea. That will be one less frustration that you have to deal with since you already have enough on your caregiving plate.
I had to get "mean" with Mama about sending money to all these people requesting donations. That is a whole story that is too long to go into here. But, getting "mean" was the only thing that stopped her.