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EN, I am not a fan of medicating folks for the sake of quieting them.

What psych meds (specifically, antidepressants and antianxiety agents) did for my mom was to keep her calm and happy, not "drugged" or quiet.

Before she was on meds (if I recalle correctly, it was Lexapro, Remeron and a tiny dose of Klonopin) my mother fretted and worried excessively about the taxes she thought she hadn't paid in 1937, her gay great nephew and and how she was getting to her next cardiology appointment. I thought of her incessant worries about these things as "wearing a groove in her brain" that simply begat more rumination. She was in a nursing home I didn't have to listen to her rumination, so it didn't bother ME but I didn't think it was good for HER to be engaged with things that were of no consequence to her life.

On meds, she was more engaged with staff, family and other residents--she was simply more HER.

I think it behooves you to discuss her rumination with her doc. There are meds that target that specifically.
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I don't think living together is working out for either of you any longer.
Imo , it would be best if your mother was in AL or MC.
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EB- I feel for you. My mom was the same way. I tried to get my mom to go to an adult daycare, but she wouldn't have anything to do with it. In addition, the SW there said they couldn't take her because she kept wanting to leave, exit seeking they called it, and they couldn't guarantee her safety if she managed to leave. I was going insane with her.

What saved my sanity was finally having caregivers take her out to the stores walking a few hours day. I could only afford to pay someone 3-4 days a week, the other days I or my brother took her out. If I could afford to pay for everyday I would have. Being out walking entertained her, and tired her out, so she came home ready for a nap. That helped A LOT.

At first, my mom didn't want to go with the caregivers, so I had to come along the first several times, then eventually, she got used to them.

I am wondering if you could find someone to entertain your mom so you could take a break from her. Do you think your younger aunt or uncle would be interested if you/your mom paid them? (For some reason, I vaguely remember suggesting this to you before. If so, I apologize for repeating.)
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