My 92-year-old mom lives with us. Unfortunately, she fell in the shower two weeks ago and broke her wrist. At that time she was home with my wife and was unable to get off the floor until the ambulance came. She is healing up fine but stays in bed or chair and watches tv. She does not change her clothes or bathe and I have to bring her meals to her. We are not sure what to do to get her to take care of herself.
Maybe ur wife is going to need to help her. She only needs a good shower 2 or 3x a week. A sponge bath will do in between. With a broken wrist she may need some help dressing. Do not take her food to her. If you sit down for meals, she needs to too. I fed Mom breakfast and lunch in her sitting room because we eat haphazardly. But dinner was always at the diningroom table. Don't disable her.
I agree about the shower chair and a handheld shower head would be good. Bars...until u can get permanent ones there are those with suction cups.
I am hoping this is just a temporary change for her, but at this age you can't know. Discuss it with her and with the doctor if it continues. Sure wish you the best of luck.
My Dad had moved into senior living and he really loved the place. He had wished he would have moved in years earlier, but he never knew such places existed. He really enjoyed the restaurant style menu dining.
I found a question you had asked several years ago https://www.agingcare.com/questions/mil-moved-in-several-years-ago-she-helps-very-little-and-i-feel-like-she-wants-to-be-waited-on-453997.htm Is this the same person?
Get a medical opinion asap. Sometimes these "little" things can bring on depression. Good luck!
There is a very good possibility that she is scared that she will fall again.
A shower bench or chair would minimize the chance of her falling.
Good sturdy grab bars where they are needed. (replacing towel bars with grab bars is a good start, towel bars are not intended to be used for support but that is what happens often)
Removing any trip hazards throw rugs, extension cords, excess items on the floor or the stairs, good lighting in the halls and stairs (good idea to get lights with motion detecting capability so when someone enters a hall or uses the stairs a light will come on, also good in the bathroom)
She may need help in the shower. If your wife or you do not want to take on this task there are agencies that will have caregivers that can shower mom.
If mom qualifies for Hospice a CNA would come at least 2 times a week to shower her. And if equipment is needed Hospice would provide that. (they also provide all the other supplies that are needed)