My wife and I are very concerned about the combination of vicodin and valium being prescribed for my mother in law. She is showing alarming side effects, but her physician will not discuss with us since we do not have permission from her and she will not give it due to her dependency for the medication at this point. We desperately need help and do not know where to turn.
She may be mentally ill, she may be unintentionally overdosing and unaware that she is (if her kidneys don't work well, for example), she may be an addict, or none of these things may be true and there is something completely different going on. We have no idea.
You’re my neighbor. I also live in Louisiana. There is Townsend Rehab in Metairie.
I see on your profile, you live in Metairie. For opiate addiction they will do Suboxine. She will not have to go cold turkey. They used to have an inpatient program in Scott, LA. (Suburb of Lafayette). I think it closed awhile back.
I know a few people who have done Townsend. They have a pretty good success rate. The addict has to be committed to the program. No matter what program though, opiate addiction is really tough to beat. Most people relapse.
She can do the intensive outpatient program. They have counseling, medical doctor, group therapy and group therapy where family members join in. I know people who have been through the program. A woman I know that used to be in sales completed it twice. Relapsed the first time. She had an awful accident and got hooked on pain meds and Xanax.
Another guy I know who was a manager at Acme Oyster House, I am sure you are familiar with Acme. He started off just with drinking too much, pot, then opiates. He too went to Townsend. It was covered by insurance policy.
Some people do more than one stint in rehab before it sticks. Don’t get discouraged by this. It’s very common.
If you feel she needs inpatient you can do Grace House. It’s near Touro hospital in New Orleans and is an all woman facility.
Different atmosphere and different program but again, pretty good success rate. Totally different vibe though, more diverse group of people in New Orleans. Bridge House is the men’s program and Grace House is the women’s section. I know someone who did that one too. She did cocaine and it caught up to her. Became hooked. She is a musician. She did cocaine to keep up at the late night gigs. She’s very talented. Performs at jazz fest every year. I used to run into her at PJ’s Coffee on Maple St. Last time I saw her she had been clean for quite awhile.
Look, I don’t know her story how she started off on opioids but rehab will insist that you don’t judge and support them while in the program. So many people get into accidents and become addicted. Look at Cindy McCain, John McCain’s wife, happened to her after an injury.
Happened to my friend’s mom who broke her back after a fall. She was climbing on a ladder and fell. The pain was so great that she took meds to be able to function. She took them as prescribed and still became hooked. Now they don’t prescribe them as readily. When my husband had shoulder surgery they bump up PT to help and don’t rely on pain meds as much. Awhile back they just kept writing scripts and people got hooked.
HIPPA is is harming not helping. My mom is 88, and no one seems to be able to help me get her to a doctor for a psych eval so that I can move forward to get her out of a dangerous situation. Yet everyone agrees, she is in a dangerous situation. It's beyond me! Should be a 60 Minutes story, honestly.
The doctor can’t legally discuss. They could lose his/her license if they violate the HIPPA law. Sadly the doctor’s hands are tied.
Why did you move in?
Did your MIL explicitly invite you to move in?
Why was your MIL prescribed Vicodin? How long ago?
Does she have any other health conditions?
Last one - I notice that you have included PoA among your subject headings. Does your wife have any kind of POA or health care proxy authorisation?
1. Reporting concerns. You should put your observations in writing to the physician who prescribes your MIL's medication, emphasising that you believe her behaviours may be the result of [give the exact px details] and [second exact px details] in combination. Mark it "for the urgent attention of Dr [Name]." It will be attended to.
2. Discussing your concerns with your MIL's physician. Discussion implies two-way communication. Your MIL's physician absolutely is bound by her professional duty of confidentiality to her patient and cannot say a single word to you about her without her consent. It's basic. It may be a pain, but she can't do it.
Try again. Make it clear that you are understand the HIPAA rules and the requirements of patient confidentiality and are therefore not expecting a response to the information you have provided, but that you would like receipt of it confirmed. Or send it by a signed for delivery service, if you like. Taking information *in* is no breach of doctor-patient confidentiality; but stop expecting feedback because you won't get any.
Then again, if your mother won't see her what are you expecting the doctor to do? When's the next refill, do you know?
By the way, just noted a further comment: as the doctor won't speak to you, how do you know what the doctor believes the truth to be? I'm pretty sure that if this doctor, this mandated reporter, actually believed your mother's misrepresentations you'd already have been arrested. Do credit the physician with knowing her job.
If she lives with you, I'm not sure what you can legally do but if you can get her into inpatient rehab for 30+ days then you can get a legal eviction (based on your state's laws) and she can go live in a sober home afterwards or AL but do not let her live with you ever again.
If it's your home maybe you can set up cameras to see what she's doing and maybe even where she is stashing her pills. If she's doing anything illegal (like stealing) you may have grounds to kick her out. Does this person still drive? The minute she gets into her car and you think she's under the influence, call 911 and report her. Good luck!
Lying and getting your wife thrown in jail is a BIG deal. You are correct that it could have adverse consequences for the rest of your lives. Plus, next time she will be believed again because your wife now has a record.
Her drugs obviously mean more to her then her wellbeing or you guys. Nothing can give you back your own wellbeing and reputation if she is allowed to destroy them.
Please get out before someone ends up in prison.
I may even call APS and tell them ur situation. Ask if they can investigate for you?
The accusations, paranoia and memory loss are all par for the course with dementia. Has she been diagnosed with dementia? Is she being seen by a neurologist or psychiatrist?
Does MIL live with you?
What are the alarming side effects?
If they are life-threatening, you should call 911 and have the EMTs evaluate her. She may need to detox in the hospital.
Unless MIL has signed a HIPAA release, her physician cannot give you any information. But you can and should share your observations of her condition and your concerns with her/him.
Risk of overdose is quite high. See this article from WebMD: https://www.webmd.com/mental-health/addiction/news/20170315/opioid-painkillers-and-xanax-or-valium-a-deadly-mix-study