My mother has changed so much in the last few years, I can hardly believe the differences of her mental faculties. This forum exemplifies it all even more. No one talks about the possible deteriorating elderly mind and body, the work it takes to care for them and how to process the relationship as a daughter or son. Why is this topic taboo to the rest of the world that isn’t caretaking? So much of it is unknown to the unparticipating, or young. I’d like to learn more, and in-depth. Does anyone have a reference to a book that would help with understanding geriatrics more? The process, how to cope, what one could expect? Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
You pose a good question - why eldercare isn’t of interest to non-caretakers. So many people do not want to think about the finality of their life - it’s a hard talk to have with your parent(s). My Mom doesn’t want to plan ahead, doesn’t care about the mess she’s leaving her only child and told my husband she ‘won’t listen to her!’ (Meaning me.)
I’m focused on learning how to better communicate with her, how to better cope with this disease (undiagnosed) and what to expect in the various stages through books & webinars. Some that have helped me:
. Jennifer FitzPatrick - ‘Cruising through Caregiving’
. Leslie Kernisan - www.betterhealthwhileaging.net
. Teepa Snow - Positive Approach to Care podcasts
. www.caring.com
. National Institute on Aging
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