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I have Alzheimer's and currently live with a daughter. However, she works full-time, so I am home alone all day. I don't drive and hesitate to do anything like cooking in the kitchen, so eat a lot of sandwiches.
Our senior center has vans to provide transportation to and from the center for free and to other locations in the city for $1 each way. The senior center serves a hot breakfast and lunch and has exercise classes as well as card games, pool tables, and music. There could be something similar in your area too.
About your original question: If money is not an issue, general consensus seems to be the sooner you move to assisted living the easier it is to adapt to the new environment and routine, make some friends, and enjoy your life there. If you cannot find some better socialization opportunities, then some studies indicate the social isolation you are experiencing in your daughter's home during the day will likely speed the Alzheimer's progression.
My suggestion for now would be to see if you can find a good program at an adult day care or senior center to fill your daughter's working hours and continue to enjoy her company during the evening. If you don't like that idea maybe hire a companion to come to house mid-morning and stay for a 3-4 hours, prepare some lunch, transport you to an exercise class, etc..
Or you might consider enrolling in meals on wheels so you can have a hot lunch when your daughter is working.
There are other avenues to explore besides a facility. Here in our city, we have a county transit system who will pick us up at our door and drop us back off. Reservations-have to be made a few days in advance and there is a small fare. But they have a handicap accessible van for my husband. Check out Senior Centers in your area. If you have transit system, they will take you there.
As for eating, I would imagine sandwiches would get rather tiresome. What about a microwave for prepackaged meals?
But, as rocketjcat suggests do share with your daughter how you feel. She may be under the impression everything is fine.
I’m so sorry you're going through this. Have you spoken to your daughter about how lonely you are during the day? Maybe as a first step you or she could check into an adult day program in your area, where they would pick you up or she could drop you off? They usually have lunch and social activities. Im sure other posters will have other suggestions for you.
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I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
About your original question: If money is not an issue, general consensus seems to be the sooner you move to assisted living the easier it is to adapt to the new environment and routine, make some friends, and enjoy your life there. If you cannot find some better socialization opportunities, then some studies indicate the social isolation you are experiencing in your daughter's home during the day will likely speed the Alzheimer's progression.
My suggestion for now would be to see if you can find a good program at an adult day care or senior center to fill your daughter's working hours and continue to enjoy her company during the evening. If you don't like that idea maybe hire a companion to come to house mid-morning and stay for a 3-4 hours, prepare some lunch, transport you to an exercise class, etc..
Or you might consider enrolling in meals on wheels so you can have a hot lunch when your daughter is working.
As for eating, I would imagine sandwiches would get rather tiresome. What about a microwave for prepackaged meals?
But, as rocketjcat suggests do share with your daughter how you feel. She may be under the impression everything is fine.
Im sure other posters will have other suggestions for you.