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I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
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i was on the phone and i told her i would help her as soon as i hung up and she still yelled at me and told me to get out I was so hurt I have been caring for her 15 years now and shes not my mom even before I was married to her son
She has dementia, or the beginnings of it. Take on the parent role. It's hard. And don't expect her son to back you up because she will pull rank on him and he will turn into a truant 12-year-old (been there, done that with two sons and a daughter -- they all folded). This is not something unusual. She is not who she used to be (even at the best of times). Don't take it personally. She is striking out . . . you will too, someday. Keep your perspective (yes, I did repeat that intentionally). Don't ever, ever, ever, fight back. It only makes things worse. Just walk away. Come back later. Keep your perspective (again) -- this is someone who has a mental illness It is not about you but about them, and elderly get more and more egocentric as they age. You are the caretaker, take the higher road and do what is necessary for the good of the patient. My father was a doctor and many time he would come home in tears because he knew the condition of a patient, and he knew the outcome. And he had to break the news. But to the patient he had to maintain his professional distance. It is hard, it's hard, it's hard. Carry on. You are the only bridge your MIL has to sanity. Stay in touch with this website. It has helped me in so many ways as I traveled down your path. Bless you.
My husband deals with his family, I deal with mine. Period. In fact a lot of people I know do this as well. I just stay "out of it". Works for me and my poor husband does not have to deal with my awful mother. His mom was a saint. :/
Loisygirl -- dementia takes on many forms. There is no perfect identifiable attribute. My girlfriend's father, who was a sweet, mild mannered minister (Episcopal) turned into a mad angry person that would strike out at anyone who "told him what to do." My sister created an alternate reality and created a husband that she hid from the family -- and baby (not) -- and would argue with me about that (my mistake for trying to understand this since she was my first experience. My MIL said that I am responsible for her husband early demise (cancer at 39) but she can't remember where or when (I was in another state at the time and only a teenager), but she now hates me for that . . . just remember that YOU are sane, and that your reality is in sync. Many times your MIL will be looking to you for confirmation of her reality. Depending on how you answer will either assist, or create the most confusing angry situation imaginable. It will come to you out of left field and you have no control of the outcome. Just try to be as comforting and neutral as possible. You can walk away to compose yourself. You can have "me" time. And don't let anyone else tell you you are not doing a good job. If they aren't truly assisting you then they can take a walk too, and keep going.
Something I learned in dealing with rude, loudmouthed inlaws: say what you need to say calmly and clearly , then shut up and walk away. Don't get dragged into it.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Sandra