My my dad went into hospice with 6 months to live. I was never contacted when he left the hospital nor when he entered hospice. When my dad entered hospice it's Jason is charged that he was confused. It states in his charge and he was confused the entire time he was in hospice. They let my dad's significant other make his medical decisions when she had no right to. My dad's at significant other told hospice the day that he passed that she had talked to me. Hospice still allowed her to make my dad's after life decisions I was still never contacted. I am my father's daughter his next of kin why was I contacted why did Hospice allow just a significant other to take care of him or make his decisions. Hospice putting his file that on entering hospice he was confused weak and fatigued. But they still allowed it just as significant other to make his decisions. Not to mention the significant other had a restraining order on her for domestic violence on my dad. Why was any this allowed to happen?
If Hospice is given no info, then they cannot contact you.
So sorry you were left out of Dads last days.
The hospice people of course do not legally vet anyone who is with a patient. They try to take information from the patient and the people who are there with him or her. I had a somewhat amusing thing happen when my theretofore well and able brother smashed himself and his truck and was unconscious; his friend/former partner ( then already in assisted living and not mentally strong) was with him and I was 450 miles away. The Hospital thought the friend was his partner basically because he said he was; he stayed at his side in his room while his Assisted Living put the police out for him as a missing person. The information or lack of it (insurance, medicare) they got has led to real ongoing snafus in this day and age of hospitals sending their billings to India to be sent on to the patient. I am still trying to iron it all out, with my bro now in the same assisted living his friend is. Eventually I was notified by the Park manager he knew that he was hospitalized. By that time he was ready to move to rehab.
But no, no one is legally liable to seek out next of kin people when they are told that the "significant other" is it. How would they have resources to do that? Very sad, all of it, and I am so sorry for all the problems and confusion for you, especially if you feel you missed last quality moments with your Dad.
I would suggest, if, as you seem to indicate you are the sole survivor and living heir, that you see an elder care attorney and begin to figure out how to file for probate and check for legal documents your Dad may have had so that you can move forward in settling his estate if there is one.
An adversarial relationship with the significant other will likely not work to help you with any of this. So the waters may continue to be muddied. Good luck.
It's sad when someone is 'excluded' from that final time--but sometimes (as in our case) OB had no need to know and was not a part of the family, hadn't been for years. He only came around to steal the silver and antiques and take money from mother. The last 3-4 years of daddy's life, he didn't even see dad.
It was a calm and peaceful passing. Had OB shown up, he would have been escorted out.
Did hospice have your information? They can’t contact you if you aren’t listed on their paperwork. With my MIL, hospice did not have her children’s information. I don’t know why. When she signed up, they came out to her house and she didn’t ask us to be there. Actually we didn’t know she was going on hospice until after it was all said and done. When my husband had to take over and assume his role as medical POA, his mother’s signifigant other contacted us and told us to contact hospice. So I am thinking when your dad went on hospice, he didn’t put you down on the paperwork. You can certainly contact the hospice company and ask them what happened and why.
As far as the coroner, if someone on hospice dies, the coroner isn’t involved. The coroner wasn’t called. When your dad passed, he went to straight to the mortuary. Your dads significant other should have notified you.