Currently his girlfriend has some post dated checks written to her but they will run out. He has mostly medical bills and just one cell phone bill. His dividends are what pay for his senior living but he is in ICU now with many problems including brain problems - dementia. He is incoherent and has NO POA! Dr says he cant sign anything.
The rent is being auto withdrawn so thats good - ( the GF set that up).
Who do I call to have him taken care of if everyone abandones him? Or lives far away and cant help locally. We suspect the girlfriend wants to wash her hands of it.
We have no $ for courts/lawyers or the time!
What happens to his financial accounts? We dont even know who his lawyer is who did the first draft of his trust. Maybe I can find out... doubtful.
I was told of many options: conservator, discharge planner, hospitalist,ombudsman etc.. it was confusing.
I worry if I go there to see if I can find anything of mine Ill get sucked in.
With all the fraud out there, Id hate to have my SSN exposed or if I should even be worrying about that one thing.?
The Girlfriend is 70 yrs old, very helpless and not resourceful and is tired thus isnt asking questions about his medical and is just paying his medical from checks he post dated to her. ( those will run out soon!)
Its a headache - she said she was trying to hack his computer to log into his banking.
My ONLY concern is if he has any sensitive info in his filing cabinets.
My Dad was paranoid and very private. Didnt trust anyone. No one knows things about him and neither one of us can get access to ANY information. you have to be POA to even enter his room at the senior living place he lives at. ( he is in ICU but yes - he will have to move.). Again... Im not allowed to know when it might be or how he is doing medically or otherwise.
He has been a con man and compulsive liar his entire life with an extreme paranoia to people who might only want him for his money.
I honestly dont want much to do with him but I would like to know who to CALL if he is abandoned and no one around to pay his bills.
He was extremely violent and threatened lives. Im simply looking to at least make sure his Girlfriend knows who to call.
Thank you.
It sounds like he is also going to need a different living arrangement when he is out of the hospital. Will you be able to take the time to figure that out and arrange it?