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I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid. We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour. APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment. You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints. Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights. APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.I agree that: A.I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information"). B.APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink. C.APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site. D.If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records. E.This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year. F.You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
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Your loved one may not require home care or assisted living services at this time. However, continue to monitor their condition for changes and consider occasional in-home care services for help as needed.
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If you live in FL, go to the Florida Department of Elder Affairs website (elderaffairs.state.fl.us). Although there's a hotline and e-mail address, make an appointment to speak with someone in person. They'll tell you how to manage your parents' finances and still get paid for caregiving. In other words, how to cover your a___ (CYA). Also, don't forget that every state has some form of Department of Aging. So get it from the horse's mouth instead of getting your answers piecemeal from vulturish lawyers and those know-it-all neighborhood "experts."
Your Dad has Alzheimer's and your Mom vascular dementia. As such, they're not able to make "rational" decisions about their finances most of the time. POA, therefore, isn't a license to go ahead and spend money that you might feel entitled to as the primary caregiver. Until you can get financial assistance from the State and other sources, be frugal with the household expenses and keep receipts for everything just to be on the safe side.
The last thing you want is for the State to step in, split your parents, and put them in nursing homes that can't wait to eat up whatever money they bring with them. Plus your siblings "van a formar un bochinche que te vas a tener que mudar del vecindario," and your guilt will never end -- even after your parents pass away. ... So be careful!
Sorry I guess the more detail didn't work. My wife and I care for both my mom and dad for the past year and a half . My father has ALZ and my mom has vascular dementia and is paralized on the left side . All of my siblings abandoned them and don't want any contact with them. My wife and I have given up our jobs and our life to care for them 24/7 . My parents don't want to be seperated or go to a nursing home. We have3 kids of our own and we have depleted all of our money to take care of my parents. We can not get goverment assistance because of my parents money. I am POA for both thier finances and health. Can I use thier money to help with the bills and needs of my own family?
If you tell us what the problem is, maybe we can help you. But let me say three things before I go: (1) Perhaps your siblings "hate" you because they believe you're taking advantage of your parents' source of income now that you've given up your jobs, or maybe they're just trying to flip the script on you and make you feel guilty for doing what they didn't want to do in the first place: share the responsibility. I think it's a combination of both; (2) Lawyers, unless they can profit substantially from the situation, will give you all kinds of verbal pyrotechnics to keep confused and hanging around in the hopes you can come up with the money to make it worth their while; and (3) As a Brazilian-Puerto Rican, I too don't like the idea of putting our elderly in nursing homes or stashing them away somewhere when we can't or don't want to are for them. Unfortunately, in this country caring for our elderly requires that family members make sacrifices and spend years riding a roller-coaster of physical/emotional pain and strain. In addition, the elderly's needs often exceed our abilities no matter how much we love them and try to keep them warm, happy and comfortable.
Other than that, I don't know what else to tell you my friend. I wish you the best, and let us know what happens.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
A.
I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
If you live in FL, go to the Florida Department of Elder Affairs website (elderaffairs.state.fl.us). Although there's a hotline and e-mail address, make an appointment to speak with someone in person. They'll tell you how to manage your parents' finances and still get paid for caregiving. In other words, how to cover your a___ (CYA). Also, don't forget that every state has some form of Department of Aging. So get it from the horse's mouth instead of getting your answers piecemeal from vulturish lawyers and those know-it-all neighborhood "experts."
Your Dad has Alzheimer's and your Mom vascular dementia. As such, they're not able to make "rational" decisions about their finances most of the time. POA, therefore, isn't a license to go ahead and spend money that you might feel entitled to as the primary caregiver. Until you can get financial assistance from the State and other sources, be frugal with the household expenses and keep receipts for everything just to be on the safe side.
The last thing you want is for the State to step in, split your parents, and put them in nursing homes that can't wait to eat up whatever money they bring with them. Plus your siblings "van a formar un bochinche que te vas a tener que mudar del vecindario," and your guilt will never end -- even after your parents pass away. ... So be careful!
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-- ED
If you tell us what the problem is, maybe we can help you. But let me say three things before I go: (1) Perhaps your siblings "hate" you because they believe you're taking advantage of your parents' source of income now that you've given up your jobs, or maybe they're just trying to flip the script on you and make you feel guilty for doing what they didn't want to do in the first place: share the responsibility. I think it's a combination of both; (2) Lawyers, unless they can profit substantially from the situation, will give you all kinds of verbal pyrotechnics to keep confused and hanging around in the hopes you can come up with the money to make it worth their while; and (3) As a Brazilian-Puerto Rican, I too don't like the idea of putting our elderly in nursing homes or stashing them away somewhere when we can't or don't want to are for them. Unfortunately, in this country caring for our elderly requires that family members make sacrifices and spend years riding a roller-coaster of physical/emotional pain and strain. In addition, the elderly's needs often exceed our abilities no matter how much we love them and try to keep them warm, happy and comfortable.
Other than that, I don't know what else to tell you my friend. I wish you the best, and let us know what happens.
-- ED