I am trying to find help, to no avail. I am 80 years old. My selfish blind son of 65 lives with me. He is also on dialysis. I cook, wash his clothes, all he does is eat and sleep. I have a pace maker and am tired all the time. I need a house keeper and no one will work for me. I have tried people before, they either charge too much or they say their schedule is full. I don't sleep well and wake at odd early hours, get up to get a cup of coffee. He will hear me it could be 2,3,or 4 A.M whatever, then he wants me to fix him something to eat and it sets me off making me very angry. I don't want to do it any more. He is pulling my health down and it's my home. I want him out. What is my help choice at this time with this virus? He keeps me so upset I forget to take my meds.
Start by calling, COVE (209) 722-8118.
They are a resource center for the blind. Explain your situation.
You mention in your profile that your son tried to kill himself.
Both of you are struggling. Please seek help for mental and physical needs.
Go to your profile and remove your names.
Is there an organization that will address your son’s issues in your area?
Look for an organization that helps in aiding blind people live independently.
Clearly, he is dependent on your help and you are at an advanced age and could use a bit of help for yourself.
Contact Council on Aging in your area for an assessment for your needs.
Exhaustion and stress are causing you to forget your meds.
Taking meds on a consistent basis is important. Please take care of yourself as best you can.
These programs have waiting list so I would call as soon as possible.
You may want to call churches in your area to see if they have any ideas for you to follow.
Call your doctor and they can give you a contact number for a social worker.
Call your son’s doctor as well and explain your situation.
You sound completely exhausted and I hope that you will find solutions soon.
Let us know how it goes. We care.
You need to call you County Office of Aging. They may be able to help you get an aide to help with cleaning, help with your son. There is also Medicaid for in home care. If your son is on Medicaid for health insurance, talk to his caseworker about in home help.
Sorry, thats the best we can do. You need to make the calls. Go back and read your previous questions. There were some suggestions there. Go to your profile and your questions are under "following". Good Luck.
It’s easier for her to get new information. Read her profile. She’s struggling.