If they have the money to pay and they say they don't want to be a burden? My mom wants to live with me. She has the money for assisted living but refuses. She wants to leave the money to her children but won't use any of he money to help pay for her care. Some people have said she doesn't want to go to assisted living because she would lose her independence but she will lose that if she lives with me. She will be dependent on me. That's not independent. She doesn't have any significant health issues. She is still mobile without any canes or walkers. When she comes to stay with me she refuses to do anything for herself. Even bathing herself, combing her hair and taking her meds. She does these things for herself in her home but when she visits me she hands me the comb and says "comb my hair for me". I am going trying to decide whether to take her into our home. My husband does not want to. I feel obligated but I don't think I am ready for this level of care. Any advice would be appreciated. Especially from any seniors out there.
Three-quarters of facilities charge residents extra for a variety of services -- from bringing meals and delivering packages to making the bed and administering pills. "There is no limit on what you can charge for," says Jody Spiegel, director of the Nursing Home & Assisted Living Advocacy Project. One Los Angeles assisted-living facility began charging a resident, Carmen Lashley, extra fees when her health began to decline in 2011: $500 a month for administering her medication, dressing her, bathing her, wheeling her to meals -- on top of rent, and she was on a fixed income, says her daughter Maxine St. Prix. In January, Lashley was rushed to the hospital with a breathing problem; a physician recommended she move to a nursing home, so St. Prix notified the assisted-living facility. Still, the facility tried to collect one last month's rent and the extra $500 in fees, even though the contract indicated that in the event of a medical emergency, she did not have to give 30 days' notice. "A collections agency even called my daughter," says St. Prix.
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