My wife had a stroke 14 months ago and was left weak she is 85 years old and are batteling with infections and is often in hospital. She had a recent shoulder replacement and eats little and drinks little. She also suffers from dementia she wants to stay at home but my back is giving in
I think you will both find it beneficial for others to do the hands-on caregiving and for you to go back to being her husband and her best friend. Be her advocate. Be sure to select a place where it will be easy for you to visit her daily.
Please talk to her doctor about NH placement. Is she eligible for Medicaid, or do you have the wherewithal to private pay?