MIL is in a nursing home. She’s 92 and has dementia. Because of Covid we haven’t seen her since October when she was admitted. She wasn’t doing good then so I’m sure she’s even worse now. She can’t hear and her sight is minimal so a virtual visit won’t work. It’s been a very long haul and I find myself wondering about something a lot. Will a nursing home call if they think she’s on deaths door? With Covid especially high where she is I’m honestly hoping they won’t.
When our father was dying 6 years earlier at age 90, both my sister and I were called, although neither of us made it to the nursing home on time. The day before, I was returning from a business trip and stopped at the nursing home on my way back from the airport, and there was a hospice nurse in the room. (At that point I didn't really even know what hospice was or that my father was "on hospice" as my sister was POA and had clinical medical experience, so the term didn't really mean much to me.) The nurse took his blood pressure while I was there (it was rather low) and she said his skin was getting grayish (although the lighting was poor enough that I couldn't tell the difference), and he was either asleep or comatose. I went home, and the next afternoon we received the call. We obviously knew the end was approaching although at least I had no idea when it would be.
The following year my Dad was in Assisted Living and Hospice said within the next couple of days. Dad's regular caregiver was with him when he passed as my Dad told me to go home, apparently he didn't want me to see him pass. The caregiver called me when Dad died, and I went over to his assisted living complex.
In both cases, Hospice also called the funeral home.
You should be checking with them to get updates on her condition at least weekly anyway. The fact that she can't see or hear doesn't mean you shouldn't have eyes on her regularly.
See if they'll do a short FaceTime with you so you can see her, or at the very least ask them to text you pictures periodically.