Wife with Young Onset Parkinson's needs more help. I still have 10+ years of full time work before I can retire and be more "available." I do not want our teenage daughter to be picking up the "caregiving slack" when I'm at work or otherwise out. Medicaid sounds good from the perspective of getting help, but the impoverishment requirements would kill my retirement funds and our daughter's college fund. I also assume there is a sizeable degree of recordkeeping required for tracking eligible services and expenses. I'm in the early stages of working with an Eldercare Atty. Any insights on this process and it's trappings would be great.
If qualified, Medicaid will provide for medical care and maybe long term care in a nursing facility. Some states also have waivers to allow their state Medicaid program to pay for assistive living (most have long wait lists for this). And "in theory" Medicaid also pays for aides to help at home but the wait list in many states to actually get an in-home aide is very long (3 or 5 years) as there are so few people to do this work and there is a huge demand for this help.
Yes, work with your elder care lawyer and area agency on aging as there may be other local programs you might have access to. Sadly, paying out of pocket for much of this -- unless you have separate long term care insurance that covers home health aides -- will be the likely outcome.
In addition to an elderly care lawyer, best to get with an estate attorney as well to plan that out. Depending on your circumstances, there are options to consider such as a special needs trust for your wife (what happens to her if something happens to you, and can you protect any assets from Medicaid taking them? Your elder care lawyer can help with that). Perhaps putting some assets into an irrevocable trust for your daughter (estate attorney). Perhaps putting assets (home, savings, investments, etc.) into a revocable trust with you and another Trustee to manage if something happens to you (estate attorney). There are a host of these things to consider from an estate, tax and asset protection standpoint as well as what the elder care lawyer might be able to do from the Medicaid standpoint.
Keep in mind that Medicaid has a 5-year look back provision, so best to consider some of these things well in advance. Your elderly care lawyer may also be able to handle the estate/tax stuff, but many work with estate/tax planning lawyers as well.
For me, because I'm still working for several more years, my assets are in retirement accounts that Medicaid views as jointly held with my wife, and therefore need to be spent before my wife can be enrolled. Our daughter's college fund is also counted, because we could cash it out if we wanted to.
. I hope there are others here who have gone through the process who will have more input of what they have gone through. Consider seeking a support group for families and spouses of people suffering chronic long term disease with increasing needs as they are going through the same things you are. Try for Facebook Groups or any other group involving Parkinson's. The amount of information you can get from such groups is enormous. Wishing you good luck. Wish I had more information you could USE, but want to assure you you are doing the right steps to get help.