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Seems like we are roommates -has shown memory changes the last 3 years and tasks seem to take longer and now relationship isn’t the same

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Hi Hoping...it seems our profile names are so similar. Just sending you all the very best for strength and clarity during this time.
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Peasuep Sep 23, 2024
Thanks for clarifying “22”.
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Your profile says that your hubby has Alzheimer's?
How long has he had this condition, and how different is he now from what was his norm?
The one thing that is a certainty with any dementia is that things relationship-wise will never again be the same.
I would check in with doc about what stage you are currently looking at if that's important to you.
I am sorry you are experiencing this, but there is no upside and it's a long downside in this condition.
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cwillie Sep 23, 2024
note that the site default for anyone with cognitive concerns is Alzheimer's/dementia, it doesn't necessarily mean Alzheimer's and checking this box doesn't mean there has been any medical diagnosis
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You don't say how old your spouse is, and it matters because if he's on Medicaid then you can take him for his free annual wellness check-up where they will do all sorts of testing and bloodwork, which is necessary to narrow down whether he has dementia or not. At my first 65 physical, they asked me if I wanted to take the cognitive/memory test and I said yes so I'd have a baseline. If at all possible I would make an excuse to stay in the room while he's taking this test so you can see the results. It may shock you. You can pre-arrange this test by going into his medical portal and informing the doctor that you are seeing worrying signs of possible cognitive problems and hence give him the test, don't ask if he wants it. They are usually very accommodating with these types of requests.

If he doesn't get an accurate diagnosis then he can't have any type of productive treatment. Other health issues can cause dementia-like symptoms in older people so these all need to be discounted. And, if he still drives... you will have to keep a close eye on his skills and driving behavior.
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Geaton777 Sep 23, 2024
CORRECTION: not Medicaid but Medicare.
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Apathy is common in vascular dementia, Teepa Snow has a good video describing this

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wHiWaQ_VdZc
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I see you posted on 9/16 about an uncle who you suspect has dementia and received several good answers. Now a spouse is showing signs too? That’s a lot to handle.
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Hoping, Lack of empathy or concern for others is definitely a thing in dementia. Losing interest in hobbies, friends, etc. - also a thing. There are people on here with much more experience than I but I think these are also symptoms of depression. You might need to provide more details to get more helpful answers.
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