My mom will be turning 77soon. My mom has been held captive in her home by my brother who is a major drug addict. He broke down her door numerous times and tried to kill my younger brother with a baseball bat and when my mom tried to help him, my big brother punched her in the face. She called me yesterday and told me that he has been harassing her over the phone. She had a PFA against him but, it has expired. I told her to get another on ASAP. My younger stays with her at times and checks on her by phone daily. I live over 100 miles away from her and there is no way I can help her. I am really worried about her safety! She will be turning 77 soon and has numerous health issues and just last year had to have a hip replacement. I was told about your agency from my ex-husband who has a master's degree in Social Work, so he knows about some of these kind of issues. He suggested I contact Active Aging to help with checking on her well being. I hope you can help her her and protect her.
"I live over 100 miles away from her and there is no way I can help her. I am really worried about her safety! .... I hope you can help her her and protect her."
Perhaps you really didn't realize the nature of this forum, but I wonder (and hope I'm wrong) if you're thinking that someone else is going to rush in and take care of dangerous situations that the family should have acted on and continue to be addressing.
If you're unwilling to drive just 100 miles, or uncomfortable getting involved or have other reasons for wanting someone else involved, then by all means as others have suggested, do something and do it ASAP. I can understand that someone might be uncomfortable intervening, but there's no excuse for not calling the proper authorities.
And I'm really still at a loss as to why the police haven't been called or aren't actively involved. They're the first and most important level of protection.
Another issue is whether or not anyone took your mother to the ER when she was punched in the face. The ER staff are, I believe mandated reporters and would have notified the police.
1. Call 911
2. Get a wellness check
3. Do something
There is "no way" you can help her? How on earth is an online forum going to protect your mother? This sounds like another stroll down jiggery pokery lane!
I am at a loss to understand why all this family violence has been occurring and (a) the police haven't been called, and (b) the restraining order hasn't been renewed or reapplied for, or (c) why someone hasn't reported the drug abuser to the police for action and hopefully prosecution.
100 miles is far, but you could get there in a few hours. It seems to me that if you're going to get some results, perhaps you'd better go down there, get your mother and take her to the courthouse or wherever she needs to go to get a renewed restraining order.
And file complaints with the police against the physical abusers.
This is a serious situation; do it now. Take time off work if you have to, but get it done before someone is physically injured.
You have knowledge of the situation; if something happens and your mother is injured, one of the questions asked would be why YOU didn't act on the knowledge you have.