My mother lives with me. Her attitude and the tantrums she throws are getting worse by the day and now she's verbally/emotionally abusing me. I put my life on hold for her yet she calls me every nasty word in the dictionary and I'm still not good enough. I cant throw her out. She has no other place to go. But Im just drained emotionally and physically and I really am out of any solutions here...
"Has no place else to go"? What are her impairments? Can she not live alone? Is she on Medicaid or eligible for it?
Having a verbally abusive person live with you should not be a necessity. Take her to the geripsych and what s/he says.
How old is your mother? If she receives SS, there will always be a place for her to go. Many areas have subsidized housing for seniors. The only question is if it would be safe for her to live by herself.
Look, 30% of all caregivers die before their charges do. Don't be a statistic. Why in the world would you hang around someone who treats you like this?
Your mother can't help being depressed -- she did not ask for this mental disorder. I feel sorry for her. BUT I would not live with her and take her abuse. She can make the choice not to seek treatment, but you can make the choice not to have her live with you.
What you are doing is enabling your mother to wallow in her disease and not make any attempts at improving things. You mean well, but what you are doing is not really helping.