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I'm wondering if birth order has anything to do with our caregiver role? I'm #7 of 7... The only sibling help I receive is from a sister who is #3...What NUMBER are you??
I'm an only child, so it all falls upon myself. My father passed away in July of 2012. My husband and I moved my mother in with us that September, following a surgery. It is hard feeling like I do it all alone, but I do feel somewhat lucky that I don't have siblings to argue with. Reading some of the posts on here, regarding sibling rivalry, makes me feel better that there are no arguments about lack of help or money.
I am the youngest of four kids. Two older brothers and one older sister. I was the only one with young children, ages 5 and 3. I took care of my mother for fifteen years and my father for the seven years after Mom passed away. No one helped with my Mom, and they visited my Dad only after he was in a nursing home. Being the youngest, they treated me poorly even though I was doing everything. No thank you's no support. It was very difficult and everyone just sat back and criticized what I did and didn't do. They are all great friends and I am left out many times which really hurts me and my family.
When I look around at who is doing the vast majority of the caregiving, it falls on the shoulders of the women. It is time to break this stereotype that only the women do this work, let the men take part in helping..... yes, more than just driving or carrying in the groceries.
I am the oldest of 6 kids. The others are all much younger than me. I am the oldest daughter - my sister (#3) did some caregiving but has two toddlers and I have no children.
I'm a first-born. Also was an only child for nearly 5 years. Much of the conventional wisdom about first-borns applies to me. I'm bossy. I'm well-organized. I'm a take-charge type. I related better to adults as a child. I tended to be a perfectionist (I've gotten over that). My oldest sister (#2 in the family order) is much more relaxed about nearly everything. She took parenting in stride much better than I did, and she is doing extremely well taking in stride the caregiving our mother.
I personally think that our birth-order can have an influence on many aspects of our personalities. That, in turn, can influence how we do many things, from raise our own kids to manage our careers to caring for our elders. It is only one factor among many, of course.
I'm number 2, older brother, younger sister. My husband wouldn't agree, but I have the "Sweetest" personality. If Daddy had gone to live with either of the others, there would have been bloodshed!
Even though my sister and I aren't quite speaking right now, I do come from a good family. They both supported me in important ways during my father's illness. I used to think my family was nuts, but I know now that we were practically "Father Knows Best," at least compared to many families represented here!
I am # 3 and do 100% of the caregiving. One sister visits once a week for a half an hour, but is "too busy" to do any hands-on caregiving, and my other sister visits about 3 times a year, (she lives about 20 minutes from our folks). Quite often after months of my mother not hearing from one of my sisters, my mother will ask me if she is still alive, and she is not joking. I think there are other factors besides birth order, as some siblings that are married use that as an excuse for not helping out, especially if they have kids. Your question is a good one, but I do not know the answer.
I am #2 with an older sister and younger brother. My sister takes Mom one day a week from noon to around 8:00 pm. My brother rarely sees Mom, even though he lives in the same city as us (this has hurt her deeply).
I'm happy that I'm able to take care of Mom. I will admit, that I wish that my siblings were more involved. It will be very upsetting at her funeral when my brother cries the loudest and the longest about how much he loves her when he is choosing to not spend time with her while he can. (I just hope that I can keep my mouth shut and not call out, "B.S" when the crying begins.)
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
When I look around at who is doing the vast majority of the caregiving, it falls on the shoulders of the women. It is time to break this stereotype that only the women do this work, let the men take part in helping..... yes, more than just driving or carrying in the groceries.
I personally think that our birth-order can have an influence on many aspects of our personalities. That, in turn, can influence how we do many things, from raise our own kids to manage our careers to caring for our elders. It is only one factor among many, of course.
Even though my sister and I aren't quite speaking right now, I do come from a good family. They both supported me in important ways during my father's illness. I used to think my family was nuts, but I know now that we were practically "Father Knows Best," at least compared to many families represented here!
I'm happy that I'm able to take care of Mom. I will admit, that I wish that my siblings were more involved. It will be very upsetting at her funeral when my brother cries the loudest and the longest about how much he loves her when he is choosing to not spend time with her while he can. (I just hope that I can keep my mouth shut and not call out, "B.S" when the crying begins.)