Depressed beyond belief and I cannot even stand the sight of my selfish mother anymore. I am so angry at her selfishness. She even once told me she did her "duty" and had children (me) and said maybe it was God's plan for ME to take care of HER. I am going through menopause, out of work due to surgery and have been cooped up with her 24 hours a day for 7 months. The anger and resentment is out of control and I can't stand her in my home while she still owns hers in Florida. It is all about her life - no concern about mine or my husbands. Only about who is going to take care of her, her, her. Always has been just about her life. I want her out of my house. My brother is also a non-issue. No help really. He resents her as well and will not help her at all. I really am going to crash soon and nothing will change. Ever.
2) take mom outside into the sunlight for about 15 minutes each day. It will help boost her mood, so she can be easier to deal with since she will feel better and she can get her vitamin d to help her bones and her overrall health. You can even sit with her outside so you can get your dose sunshine as well. The sun will help relieve your stress, boost your mood, energize you, alleviate any pains you have, etc. Google and youtube the many benefits of sunlight. Its natures medicine and it is free. This is what i do when i visit my grandpa in the nursing home. I take him outside for his dose fresh air and sunshine and ive seen an improvement on both of our wellbeing. As for me, i do not crave for coffee or sugar much and Im more energetic.
You can't win with these nasties. Get her out of your house before you become seriously ill due to the stress. I survived (many do not) ... thankfully she passed away in September and, for once in my life, I was free.