It really just amazes me just how cruel "family" can be. My father was in the hospital again and is now in a rehab, until he is strong enough to be placed elsewhere. While In IN, I was the one staying all night with dad, leaving just to take a shower then going back because my dad was scared of my brother! I told dad not to be scared but then my brother physically attacked ME. I called 911. After calling 911 NOTHING HAPPENED. Found out from my brothers boss, he has been threatening to hurt me! Scared to stay at dads condo so I started staying at hotels, my family is Military and is in Florida. Called the Police back about the text from my brothers Boss and they STILL DID NOTHING. Now because of my brother and dads family.....I left IN and came back to FL. I was chased away!!
This should be about Dad and what dad wants, but these idiots are playing games. I love my dad and I will go back. They can hurt me and scare me but you only have one father! They are after his money and nothing more. I refuse to allow dads wishes to be changed in any way! dads POA, locked me out of his condo and my belongings were in it!! His POA does not have that authority....
I'm sorry you are going through this.
I was locked in my car and the Officers' never came back to talk with me.
My father has Dementia and I am usually the one that takes care of him. My Uncle , the POA has been talking to my father about how he does not like me. Ironically, I have not spent time with him for 17 years. I have been married , raising my own family and being a military spouse. That family never gave me a chance and I have been so hurt by them and their actions.
I do not want to cause problems.....I just want to see and spend time with my dad!
I had to research and find the right Elder Care Atty and agencies to help. This also means, protecting yourself from backlash from the not so nice "family" involved bc they will come after you out of their own greed.
Try to find, one person, agency, that will show you compassion and help you set things right for your Dad.
This week has been very tough. I too decided that I would just let it go and just stay away, since I seem to be the cause of all the drama! However; that will not fly with me. I am my father's only advocate! My adopted brother is the cause of ALL THE PROBLEMS, BUT MY 63YEAR OLD UNCLE HAS ALLOWED MY BROTHER TO EFFECT MY UNCLE'S JUDGEMENT!
I was not even given a chance, and that is pathetic. Instead of just giving up and staying away...I am looking for a GREAT ATTY! I want to get custody/guardianship of dad and take care of him from here on out. My dad is all I have left and I know that it is going to be difficult, but I am up for the challenge! I have seen him at his worst and his best. But regardless, he is my dad!! My husband maybe retiring in a couple years, Command list comes out this week. So after 25 years..... This is one for household six!!
I can pass a background test, easily. I worked as Grant Administrator and Police Accreditation Specialist for many years. Had to pass extensive background to be considered for employment.
I wish you luck...I just have had so many other things to deal with, along with this situation, that I was beginning to get sick, depressed, etc. I'm sure I will have to revisit all of this again because as long as my mom is alive they will create drama.
You see, Once You have knowlege of a situation, particularly a Harmful one, whether it be emotional or physically, YOU ARE NOW RESPONSIBLE for Reporting it! And if one agency, or in this case a 911 doesn't take you seriously, You have the Responsibility to find a Place or a Person that will! And,
the Coalition for Violence will listen. And then You HAVE to Call Ombudsman to also explain and to Protect your father, emotionally, physically, as well as
financially. But "I" would first Start with the Coalition against Violence for Women first, if that were me. It would allow me to Finally "Vent" with People I
could Trust, and those who would FINALLY "Believe" me!! And 'that,' is what YOU need right now too! You can't go on like this and your brother is nothing but a BULLY and the longer you wait on this, the Longer You, as well as your Dad, will continue to be Bullied. Once again, knowing this, YOU now have the RESPONSIBILITY of doing this Now! Please keep us updated!
He has no respect for women, and he is to cowardly to fight men, but he has threatened me several times.
He has never been in any serious relationship and has no children thank goodness. He also has a criminal record. My mother who he now lives with after not having any place to live, caters to him.
I told her he is not right, and that I am through having anything to do with him. I have tried to help him in the past and he repeatedly treats me horrible. He has shown that he has extreme jealousy with me, since I chose a different family life with moral.
I cannot tell you how to handle your situation either except for what the other writer response was about contacting the women against violence colition. I will also be contacting them.
What gets me is that it is usually a spouse who women deal with when it comes to domestic violence. To have a sibling treat us this way is just unbelievable. I have ever been treated so badly by anyone in my life. I am a mother of Christian faith in which this sibling is not. I have a very nice family who are loving and caring. All I can say about these types of people is that they will have to answer for their behavior. Also, I pray a lot, and I will not allow this sibling to threaten me any longer. I stay completely away from him, someday he will be all by himself and will have to live with the fact that he could of had an extended family who would have been there for him. But because of his ways that will never be. I can only hope they get psychiatric help someday because they need it. Best wishes to you.
I am trying to get a copy of the Police Report from the Greenwood Police Department, but even though I called 911, I am not listed on the report? I do have multiple text messages printed out from my brothers Boss to myself telling me about the threats against me. I even notified the police about these messages and told them the content, but was never asked to send the entire messages. I will be filing a complaint against the Greenwood PD next week, I will also talk to the Assistant Chief and send the messages to them via e-mail or text if possible. They have hurt me to the core and now they are un plugging the phone so I can not call and talk to dad, without getting a nurse to plug the phone back in. I would say, act like an adult......but the POA IS twenty plus years older than I, and is creating all of this drama!! I have had it.....no more at the expense of my father!
I am so sorry you are going through this and that your brother attacked you. My brother did threaten me and I was very cautious of where I was and not letting him know where and when I was around. I did believe that he could become violent as he had several years before. Did the police or sheriff he ask if you wanted to press charges? Could you go before a magistrate or other person of the jurisdiction? I have come up against the good ole boy system and I am just putting those questions out there. Have you considered Adult Protective Services? Even before you got to the part where you know your brother's behavior is about money, I knew that was what it was about, because that was exactly the reason my brother was belligerent to me. He did not want me to get too close to find out how much he was embezzling because he was scared he would be found out. I would talk with an elder care lawyer.
Best to you and your dad.
Strength and Courage.
Our Father,
Please hear our prayer. Let your will be done, on earth, as it is spoken in heaven. Remove the constraints, restraints, humans or spirits that are causing the separation of David from contacting his family. May your heavenly angels quickly intervene and make the family come together. Let your will be done this day, this hour, this minute, this moment. As we know, "For where two or three are gathered together in my name, there am I in the midst of them." You are here, and we humbly make this request not for ourselves, but for the sake of our family and loved ones. We remember your works of old. We remember the parable of the prodigal son. We will continue to rejoice and sing praises in your name. Yes, we will continue to sing praises to you dear Lord. We ask this in your son Jesus Name Amen.