My partner left me in December.my 88 year old mother lives with me. I work full time. She doesn't have a clue how much I resent her. .I lost my relationship because of her disrespect. She has been catered toall of her llife by me. I hate her for thinking I should devote my life for her. I lost the person who means the world to me. We were going to have a life. We took my mother lovingly into our home. She was a nasty unfriendly narcissist. My partner moved out of state. I am devastated. I have great in home care for her. I stay in my bedroom. I took her on great vacations and bought her a mobile home. I need to retire but what would retirement look like. I have no personal life. Her so called family in Pennsylvania know I am depressed. They do nothing. I brought her home to Pennsylvania for her birthday this weekend now it is snowing and I have added stress driving to Maryland tomorrow. She is not stupid. She knows how upset I am. You can't talk to her. She is a jealous old woman. She sees nothing wrong with me living out my years taking care if her. I am seeing a therapist. I miss my partner who left in December. To make matters worse my partner wants no contact with me. Lessons learned.....I have been a wonderful daughter and this is the thanks I get. Its all about her. I take great care if her and doctors visits etc but I hate her and I keep my distance.
Get yourself to a good place.
Today doesn't look to good, but tomorrow can always be better. I'm sorry for your broken heart. I started out here with a broken heart, so I know how depressing it is. Time heals, thank goodness, and the hurt and anger mostly go away. I hope your healing time is fast and you find another love that you didn't know was out there for you. ((((musiclover))))
If you catered to your mom your entire life who she is now is the monster that was created. She doesn't know any other way, she has been conditioned to coming first in your life. I don't know if there is any way you can change her attitude, there probably isn't, but you can change yours. I agree with Horsepilot. Begin the process of placing your mom in an assisted living facility. She's not your responsibility anymore. You've done enough for her and she doesn't care about the sacrifices you've made. Find her some place decent and move on, rebuild your life. Taking some action is liable to help your depression and if it doesn't talk to your Dr. about getting on an antidepressant. Staying in your situation is the easy thing to do. Making healthy choices and taking action will be more difficult but will pay off in the long run.