I read so many of your post and questions & seems like alot of us are the same or at least in the same place. Lonely frustrated not much help from family & just need to vent daily..... I know I do If my MIL yells my name or (my sister n law) which isnt here so thats me to... to ask me what day it is to tell me she is sick or needs a pain pill IM going to scream & its only noon... Thank you for listening...
But how can we know for sure? Take advantage of your sitter and enjoy the night.
I know how you are feeling. I understand your frustration. I care for my 89 year old dad who lives with me, or I should say I am living with him. I am single and I retired from a very good job last year because I could no longer work and take care of his daily needs at the same time. I now have virtually no social life. I now work part time (just a couple of days a week) to get out of the house and retain my sanity. He is forever finding something for me to do. I Can't sit down and rest for five minutes without him calling me to do something for him. I do so much for him on a daily basis. I just want one day to take care of things I need to take care of for myself. Siblings live out of town and he refuses a caregiver to come in even for a few hours because he says he doesn't trust anyone, he thinks everyone is out to steal money or something material from him. (he suffers from dementia and paranoia) There is so much I need to get done for myself and I keep putting it on the back burner because he is always coming up with something that urgently needs taken care of. I was just thinking I could either cry or scream I'm so frustrated. So, I can totally understand what you are going through. I hope your situation improves for you soon. I feel your pain.