I have been providing Live-in Private Duty Caregiving for the past 4 and a half years and I have had many problems with the children of the Elder's I am caring for. Everything from verbal abuse to breach of agreement to not being paid, to bias and personal insults there seems to be consideration and support for everyone except the caregiver. We are not all abusers or thieves and we give up our inhibitions, our free time, our privacy, and so much more to care for someone else's Parents and we are hardly ever the subject of a common cause that looks out for us. I have been trying to find just one forum that speaks about all that we endure and what we sacrifice with no watchdog community to consider us or our well being.
You'll find sympathetic ears and useful suggestions here. Welcome.
See if you can find a pro bono landlord tenant attorney, or a clinic with pro bono help to protect your interests.
i try to work for people who dont have a lot of family due to every one in the family wants to the boss and they all have diff reasons for why their way is better ,they are good at lips service but don't want to care for their loved one.
yet another got pissy cause she wanted me to be at her beck and call as if i was a dog ..... come here puppy puppy attitude!!
two of them had a problem with me keeping my bed room door closed as if i was suppose to sleep with it open!!!NOT!!!!! they get so paranoid about what ur doing in ur room !!!!
yet another one got so jealous about me having a new iphone (she was 95 ) that she wrote a long letter to her gandson claiming all kinds of outrages lies about me!!! i found letter and confronted her of course she said she didn't write the letter!!!!! she also claimed i was keeping her from her G/s which i wasn't, he lived just 2 doors down and he didn't want to be bothered with her !! they are allays quick to blame you for any and every thing that goes wrong be it house or their loved one !!
god for bid you want time off of any kind oh noooooooooo !!!
Chances of being bullied might be much slimmer as an adult child wouldn't want to deal with an agency. The agency would still pay you even if the adult child doesn't want to pay the agency.
I had one threatening to call cops on me, I'm still left wondering WHY??? she told me to get out and i was packing my stuff up as quick as i could !!
if you don't act like ur their slave they get angry !! (iv done many things that weren't considered care giving ( yard work, washing their cars,deep cleaning, personal assistant to their kids ). never having any time off! to take care of my own life.
I'm left feeling like I have to beg them for time off .... One gig I had, I had to pay a gal to step in for me so i could take care of my responsibilities out side their home!!! they act like ur non human!! they don't understand your living their life not yours!!
The women get jealous of you cause ur younger ! and had one gal who was 95 i think may of been bi sexual she would come onto me sexually !! CREEPY!! id walk in and she would be sitting there naked many times !!! crazy !!!!
many get angry over stupid crap like.... u didn't close cabinet door and they are going to fire u for it .....one had a break down all because i opened bag of cookies what they considered to be wrong way ! !YIKES over damn bag of cookies trying to ruin my life!!!!!
Any ways !! such as life !!!
BUT people lie!! to cover up what they did or said to the caregiver!!! iv gotten to where i use my cam / video on phone to document their crazy crap!!!