Your heart feels empty. We only have one family. Seems like I just can't win in any situation. It hurts me so much that no one in my family will acknowledge me or even thank me for anything (my mother lives with me and needs assistance brother's don't help, no sister's). It just doesn't feel 'normal'... I work and try to live 'my' life, but can't get over the hurt of rejection. Does anyone else feel this kind of 'abandoned' hurt? I just can't get over it.
ly what they gave.NOTHING
I agree, it really is heartbreaking with my daughter. My mom and I were so close. I told my son once "Don't take this the wrong way , but you're the best daughter I could ever have! " Of course he laughed :)
Also know I don't want to over burden him. He's just a great comfort and we've always been very close. We are like the TWO muskateers
This is going to sound terrible. The only person who has consistently stuck with us during my mother's illness is a young woman that drives me nuts. She is real nice, but she has four kids that were raised by wolves. She brings the kids any time she comes. I try to keep the kids from killing themselves or breaking everything in the house. By the time they leave, I am like a stressed cat with my hair sticking out and my nails in the walls. It ought to be illegal to take kids like that to people's houses.
P.S. I wouldn't even ask my 2 brothers for absolutely anything... They've never, ever been any help and have been non-existent since my mother moved here 10 yrs ago...
You are right, we only have one family. My situation became impossible, my Mom placed in a facility Saturday after I had cared for herr four years at home. My sibs rarely helped and in fact called APS on me. After that call I lasted another three years as investigator found nothing amiss, instead he reported excellent care.
Dementia has taken my mom, she is not who she once was. And her disease tore her family apart. If she onlky knew. But there is another kind of family that is found when one is a caregiver. These are the neighbors and professionals that were there for me as support. We had a regular caregiver on Saturdays and she has been my primary source of support.
They say you cannot pick your family. But you can certainly choose the people that provide necessary support. The people that consistently help my mom, and support me are my family, they get it! So latch onto friends and other helpers thay will be the only people that you will ever be able to rely on.