My husband has Alzheimer's and his children have never done anything for him. We live in the South and they in the NW. We were in Or. this October, but they didn't both to come- they were busy. I have witnessed their agenda about what they can get Dad to sign before they leave. They "informed" me that they would be here for 6 days - didn't ask but he sleeps most of the time and my health is not all that good. They said they were coming to help - It simply is not true, because there is nothing they can help with. I was told by my Christian counselor to not let them stay in the house. (They already said we are staying with you). I have lived here for 42 years and have only been married to their father for 8 of those years. We knew each other since 56 when he was in the military. It is difficult for me to tell them no, you can't stay here. But I have made arrangements for them to stay in a nice (very nice) motel. Stressed out - with dealing with my sweet husband's illness and his ungrateful kids. Pray for me. Thanks.
I am very glad you have arranged accommodations for the kids. Your job now is to take care of your husband and yourself. You don't need houseguests to take care of, even houseguests who are there to "help."
Do you already have POA for your husband? Whether you do or not, I suggest you insist on being present when the kids are with Dad, and that you are aware of what they want him to sign. Perhaps some of what they want is perfectly reasonable, and if it is they should have no objections to you reading it. I'd be very cautious if I were you.
I'm sorry you are dealing with this on top of the dreadful disease.
You don't need to start a new thread. You can always come back here and update us on the latest news of yours and hubby's life. And we will follow you and your journey. HUGS!!! book