Like said my mom died but I just can't believe that she had reflux that night and being on ambien she wasn't able to correctly throw up so it was sucked down her lungs . the night before she was eating fine I found her in a terrible state at the nursing home she had a heart attack due to multi pneumonia I can't seem to get past all these facts
Aspiration pneumonia is unfortunately common in dementia. It is unfortunate that she aspirated her vomit, as I understand it can be very corrosive to the lungs. Perhaps the ambien wasn't the best choice for a sleep aid, but try to put your worry about it in the past.
You say she had a (massive? multiple?) heart attack also. When my mom had her heart issues heartburn, nausea and reflux were her only symptoms until she had a heart attack, since pneumonia doesn't cause heart attacks I think your mom must have had problems before.
I tried to warn you in your previous posts that her condition sounded life threatening, I'm sorry you were unprepared for her loss. ((hugs))
The heart stops but the lungs still gasp for air. Breathing is labored and intermittent. Any liquid from the relaxed stomach may enter the airway and you may think they are choking. They are not. You are just seeing reflexes that are still working even though the patient is dead.
I remember the day my boss' wife had passed. The wife was in her last stages of Alzheimer's and they were coming back home from seeing the doctor after a check-up... every thing was fine as can be.... then out of the blue she threw up, passed out, and was gone from heart failure.