Welp, My mother ended up in the hospital anyways.
I was at the nursing home about to sign the admission papers and prep her room when the aid called. Mother had gone off the wall again running up and down the hall banging on apartment doors and hurt the aid.
The admission guy told me to "get out! I am not comfortable with this situation" - crap. I called the ambulance and had her admitted.
Truly dont know if that NH will take her now, and to tell the truth I have had it with the whole thing- burnt out to a crisp, PTSD, in pain, exhausted.
I see that she has late stage Alzheimers, so she may be in that combative stage. If so, hopefully Jessie's suggestion that a review be undertaken to determine if there are any meds that can help will in fact be done by the hospital. From my understanding, when the ALZ anger stage is reached, behavior can't be modified without intervention.
Remember, that the disease has changed your mother; she probably has no concept of what she's doing or any control over her behavior.
I'm so sorry for you; this must be so hard to bear. Please take some time off just to rest so that this doesn't compromise your own health.
it was my mother..... :(
Just yesterday on the ambulance ride she was fine, and now this-
I cannot protect her any more, this is way beyond me.
I was taken for a drive today to calm my heart....
all the work i did for her gone in an instant when I left.
Brain diseases are cruel to the people that have them and their loved ones. Just know that it's not unusual for patients to act out that way. There's no shame, so don't feel any on your mom's part. It's the nature of the disease and the medical staff have seen it all.
I know this is really weird to say, but there is no personal failure on your part. The med staff know that, and they know how disease affects people.
When my dad was dying in hospice of brain cancer, he did some weird stuff that he NEVER would've done before he became ill. It was embarrassing and hard and I thought that I was the first person to ever feel that shame about a parent acting in an inappropriate way.
That was soooo much wasted energy on my part. When we're healthy we are used to usual expectations of behavior. When a brain disease occurs, 'Katy, bar the door!' Hope you are old enough to understand that saying.
My heart breaks for you and all you are going through. It's the worst. Been there, done that and now dealing with my mom.
((Hugs)) for strength. We are here for you.
Thank you all for your responses from the other side...
When we transferred my mom from rehab to assisted living, I said "oh, no problem, we'll drive her (I didn't know about ambulette service, nor did I realize how my mom's dementia had affected her thinking). We put her in my car ( she used to LOVE my car) and she started to cry. As we pulled out onto the highway, she tried to pull the steering wheel out of my husband's hands. Thank goodness it was him and not me.
When anyone asks you about transfers, you simply say that she is not safe to be transferred in any other way.
Hang on it is a wild ride. You have done so much for your mom, it is now time to step back and let the pros figure it out. The hospital should arrange all transport, and remember Mom's condition is not your fault, and you are not able to provide the necessary care.
Just a couple of weeks ago, mom was in an altercation, pushed a woman down into a chair, thank goodness. So, now they are watching her very carefully again.
we went and set up room and she was transported from hospital and had lunch!
After that she wanted to wander, so off we went and she said "hi" to everyone in their wheelchairs. We sat in a nice big room looking at the woods- then they got everyone together to toss a ball and we left!
lord help them :O
I actually took my shoes off after all these months of running around after her care. My brain is still yacking at me, but I am telling it to "shush"