I spend all day keeping him occupied and all the rest.. fed safe etc. He won't acknowledge his very advanced stage of dementia. I am unable to leave him so I can take care of things. I have to take him with me everywhere and that is not always practical. If I pay attention to any one else...my mom, my kids, the very few friends I have left....let alone talk to strangers to try and conduct business... he gets mean and aggressive and is very controlling. I feel like I am disintegrating myself..... He doesn't qualify for assistance, too much income but not enough to just pay for help. Something he wouldn't do anyways because there is nothing wrong with him. Even tho he remembers next to nothing of his personal history and is delusional about his past. He is starting to lose speech. He has gone from stuttering and word swapping to just not having the words and being unable to speak when he wants to say something. His appetite has significantly decreased, he refuses to go to doctors or take meds. He gets fatigued quickly and gets out of breath easily. He is starting to shuffle his feet also and is starting to fall. I need to be able to get out occasionally and do things, talk to people take care of business. But I don't know what to do. My middle daughter has offered to help and spend time with him so I can get away....but she has a life and never follows thru. And I don't feel right insisting she do it. I am the only surviving child so there are no siblings to help me. He has driven away any and all friends/mates he has ever had with his horrible personality long before this came along. My mother has advanced MS and needs my help too.
At some point, there is a real possibility that your best option will be to get him to the ER after he falls or injures himself or someone else - hopefully not severely - and explain to the social worker that you can no longer care for him in your home.