His sons do not offer any help for me. If the situation had been reversed I'm sure I would have been put in NH so their dad could go on with his life. Meanwhile I do everything! I am very resentful and burnt out ! I am going to corner the 2 that live the closest for 2 weekends per month for respite... I am in dire need of a good peaceful sleep and peace of mind. I deserve it. Eight years is long enough. If they say no my husband who has a lot of his facilities, but hearing and speech problems, may be placed in NH against his will, as my health and mental status is speeding down hill. I will let you know how they react, I have a good idea though as to how this will go down.