All she talks about is her ailments and when she takes whatever med that isnt helping her. shes had stomach cancer and 2/3 of stomach removed this March. Since surgery she has turned from an independent 95 year old to an obsessive complaining 'old lady' who has lost so much weight in this past year she is in danger of getting put into hospital. She's at about 110 lbs. We tried to get her on antidepressants but she complained so much about side effects after 3 days I told her to stop if it's so uncomfortable. She has turned from a content positive person into this person I don't know and is stubborn and complaining all the time? My husband and I are nearing point of moving in with her but how do we deal with her stubbornness and yet neediness? Wants to talk incessantly about her problems but won't do anything? I am not patient with her, but my husband is.