But my mother don't talk and sits in wheel chair all day long. I'm taking her home to enjoy the day we have left. She was a little busy before going in a nursing home and when she stop walking we had to put her in one. But now that I can retire early I'm going to get my mom and enjoy these last days, because you don't know how long you are going to have them. She could have kill you but she gave you life.
While you are preparing to care for her yourself, set up a regular schedule of respite for you, and look into what kind of in-home care she could have. It is a big burden to care for someone with mobility problems and also dementia all alone. Try to hire out the things that don't require your loving care, like housekeeping or laundry or yard work, etc. You'll have your hands full with just Mom's care.
Please post often and let us know how things are going.
Look into HOME HEALTH visitors/nurses that can help you with bathing and other work you will face caring for mom at home.
It's more demanding than it's looks.
It's hard to bite my tongue & not fight back & say really nasty things I'm thinking to myself...of which would be to no avail - she wouldn't remember any of it anyway. My bros & sis want me to move in w/her & sell my condo (20 min away from her assisted living apt since I am no longer married & no kids). No can do. I HAVE to give myself some breathing room & calm down so I don't say or do something I will regret. The upside: It's another life lesson for me & I will learn something from it. I am not of strong religion, however; the Man upstairs is truly giving me strength. Good luck to all of you going thru sad situations. It is a learning tool.