Since my husband put his Mom in the nursing home, she is getting better, which is what we wished for. They have been working with her feet trying to make it so that she will be able to stand and get to the potty. That would be wonderful and what we wish for. Because she had been laying in bed so long, she laid there crossing her legs or feet and her feet turned inward toward each other and "froze" that way.
However...they haven't been able to get a grip on her diarrhea. I don't know what is keeping her alive. If I had diarrhea for a year, I would be dead a long time ago. But, if they get her able to stand up to get over to the bedside potty, I'll just have a mess to clean up, not only off the bed and her, but off the floor and potty, too, and I wasn't wishing for that.
Maybe I should just wish they don't fix her feet. She's 93 now. I got news yesterday that her sister-in-law passed and she was 97. Gosh people live a long time nowadays. I can't imagine taking care of her in this condition until she is that old.
Anyway, maybe your hubby might need a reality check? It sounds like he might be floating down "Denial." Why don't you plan a little overnighter with your girlfriends or even alone and have him momsit? Nothing like diapers to change for a dose of reality.
I would insist that her GI issues be addressed before she comes back home. Gosh! Is she in pain or just can't tell it is going to happen?