Last night I told my husband I would not make a beer run for him. I thought the roof was coming off. He said give me my 10 dollars so I did and he threw it down and said I called his bluff. He wants to get a lawyer and take all his money from me and he said then see how long you will last. He called me Mommy some trying to get a rise out of me. There is more but don't have time. What can I legally do to get him removed now. I was very scared. This starts around 3pm or earlier if he wants a beer and I won't go. Can someone help with advice now!
You admit you're weren't strong enough to refuse getting a beer for. That is part of the problem. As long as you don't have that strength, this situation is going to continue.
Perhaps you should consider getting some therapy, including that for emotionally battered women. It's time to move forward, if you really want to find solutions for this unhealthy situation. Or else accept that this is going to be a problem until something more drastic happens, such as when he broke open the gun safe.
If he somehow went ahead and divorced you, you would be entitled to your half of the assets, and you could still be part of his life.
If he becomes physically violent with you and injures you he will go to a locked psych ward and you will be unable to advocate for him while you (hopefully) recover.
If he was in an appropriate care facility you would be able to spend time with him in the mornings when he is his sweet old self, and leave the demon that Sun-downing brings out to staff.
If he refuses, then I would pursue getting a court order for having him involuntarily admitted for this purpose. See if his doctor will sign off on it. Does the doctor want him to be taken to the ER? See what advice he will give. Have his actions been enough to have this procedure done?
Call 911 to protect yourself if necessary.
Others will have advice about what to say. I'm so sorry you are having to deal with this.