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I am there with you! However, I have only been doing it for about two years and it wasn't too bad until my retirement this past summer. My father is still mobile and able to fix his own food, shower by himself and drive short distances. But he expects me to be his slave and entertainer and that is not what I signed up for. He has always been a very volatile, angry person with a history of alcoholism and he now thinks that he should be able to start drinking more again. I never know when he is going to go off, and I am now starting to go out by myself because I always regret it if I bring him with me. Which in turn will probably drive him more towards drinking in secret and who knows what. I have no help from siblings either, and I haven't been able to find a social worker or counselor who is willing to step in and help me figure out how to deal with him. I have been trying!
Debib, you do sound worn out and tired. Thank you for being such a caring person all these many years. I hope there might be some ways to improve your situation, so that you can look forward to a much better 2018. God bless you.
debib, You don't have to pay for a nursing home if you ever want to choose that option. Medicaid will pay for a nursing home. If you ever get to that point and you look for nursing homes, the one you choose will have a social worker and that social worker will help you apply for Medicaid for your dad.
As someone already mentioned, venting is welcome here :) but if you decide you'd like to have quality of life we can help with that too.
I'm sorry to hear what you are going through, it sure isn't easy being a caregiver for your whole life with no support from siblings and extended family. I felt this too, that there was no choice and I was stuck. Looking back I really wished I had talked to social worker and see if there were other options. I know you are doing the best you can for your dad. But you also have to try and look out for yourself as well. I hope you will consider talking to a therapist or joining a support group. Please know we are all here to listen and support each other. Thinking of you.
I need some more help I have been caregiving for over 30 years with very little support. I am feeling the strain and I don't know what to do to relax. I am angry with my family who offers no support since my Dad made me poA which I didn't want. I sold the family farm recently and I've stepped on all their inheritance. I had to take a reverse mortgage out on the house and they got mad about that. He only gets social secuirty and that wasn't enough to pay his bills. I have caregivers in the mornings. I am also on disability and any time I have to make a decision it's difficult for me as I am in a deep state of depression and anxiety. I just want to vent my feelings. I am homebound and he lives next door in his house. I don't have the funds for nursing home and I don't think I could put him in one. He and I both don't have quality of life. I worry all the time. When I have to go down there I am starting to have panic attacks. Thanks for letting me vent. I'm just tired and really burn't out. Thanks for listening.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
You don't have to pay for a nursing home if you ever want to choose that option. Medicaid will pay for a nursing home. If you ever get to that point and you look for nursing homes, the one you choose will have a social worker and that social worker will help you apply for Medicaid for your dad.
As someone already mentioned, venting is welcome here :) but if you decide you'd like to have quality of life we can help with that too.
I'm sorry to hear what you are going through, it sure isn't easy being a caregiver for your whole life with no support from siblings and extended family. I felt this too, that there was no choice and I was stuck. Looking back I really wished I had talked to social worker and see if there were other options. I know you are doing the best you can for your dad. But you also have to try and look out for yourself as well. I hope you will consider talking to a therapist or joining a support group. Please know we are all here to listen and support each other. Thinking of you.
Who do you take care of?
What are their ailments?
Do you live together?
Is there dementia involved?
We welcome your ranting and griping (cause we all need to do it) but we just need a bit more info.